As for what speed you can be travelling when the CDL is engage, it doesn't matter, there will be no limit, all you really need is that the front and rear axles are travelling at the same speeds.
I've been known to slip it in and out at 100km/h :angel:
As for gravel road speeds, it all depends on the road surface, tyre type, tyre pressures, your skillset, run off, etc, etc.
The old 'drive to the conditions' comes to mind and use your common sense.

