The goodness of people

[kenleyfred]

People often share around this campfire. So here's my recent story.

First I need to go back two months. My wife left me and our two young daughters and started a new life for herself in Sydney. It has been and still is a horrible time.
Three months ago the Defender broke down. Since then I have been dropping and picking up wife to work (until she moved out) and dropping and picking up our daughters to school.
This has severely hampered my earnings. Wife has not contributed a cent to kids,schooling or bills. As a consequence I have been falling behind in bills. Kids schooling, functions food and diesel for me to work have come first.

I have not managed to get any Christmas presses. Not even something from Santa.

One of the companies we do a lot of deliveries for and to heard about this.

On Friday I was sent into there. One of the forkies called out to me and told me not to leave before seeing Stevie.

Stevie came out, followed by nearly everybody who works there and they were all carrying bags of gifts for my girls.
Some of the people ( the office side) I had never even met before.

The generosity of all has been overwhelming.


I get paid weekly, my Christmas week pay ended up going in early for us. Some bills were paid, our phone won't be cut off after all. I did manage to buy something for my girls.

But to all the staff at DHL Brisbane. I thank you. Recently I have seen the worst of some people, but you have really restored my faith in the overall goodness of people.
When I can it will all be repaid.

Thank you for letting me share that.

[pop058]

Don't forget to let the rest of your (Landy) family know if we can help, even if it is just to listen:)

[Kev the Fridgy]

Mate, keep ya chin up a things will get better, it's taken me five years to get back to just even, the disco has been sitting for a couple of years in a shed, lost everything else so to speak of apart from my sense of humour and ability to work, one thing I found out was NOT to keep quiet, even for a chat as pop058 says just PM or shout on the forum..... never forget YOU ARE NOT ALONE when your on this forum and there is some great people here as well

[Ean Austral]

It never ceases to amaze me when I read of acts such as shown to your goodself. I am sure that as time passes and you sort thru things you will never forget the kindness shown and will repay it as you have said.

I remember when I was a little nipper, our house burnt down and my parents lost everything (with no insurence) and the generousity shown to us was truely amazing, I still remember it to this day.

Some wise words spoken from the posters before me, and I hope for a better 2013 for you and your daughters.

Cheers Ean

[Ausfree]

Mate, that is a great story, shows there are people out there who care. You always hear the bad stories about people, never the good. Good luck, things will get better!!:D:D I tell you what, I don't know how old your girls are now, but when they grow up, they will always remember that you stuck by them and will love you for it!!!

[Eggyegberts]

Such a nice story to hear, always so warming to hear that people will always help others when they can :) :)

[loanrangie]

So sorry to hear of your troubles, sincerely hope things improve for you.
Hope you and your girls have a good day tomorrow as best you can.

[kenleyfred]

My sincere thanks to all above and all who thanked the post.

Our day would have been better with a Christmas miracle. Mum didn't come back to us.
But it was a great day none the less. My girls were overwhelmed with the volume of pressies under the tree. There were even some scratchies thrown in for me. I'm now $4 richer myself.

After breakfast with all the neighbours we then left to spend the day with my wife's extended family. Very unusual being together with a load of family but not being with the person responsible for getting us together.

I'm still hoping for the miracle. Apparently my wife spent the day alone and then at work. Surely being with horrible old me must be better than spending Christmas alone.

People often tell me not to worry, things will sort themselves out.
In a way they were right
Through the generosity of near strangers and the love of family we've had an amazing Christmas.

Thanks to all
Kenley

[numpty]

Mate, as one who went through the same thing 3 years ago, it will get better.

There's some great people around, on here and on the outside. As Pop said, never be afraid to talk about it.

Glad Xmas turned out well for you and your girls.

[Disco44]

I went through the very same thing years ago and it knocked me around considerably.Luckily my family had all grown up but the loneliness was the hardest.With the help of family I got through it and hopefully the same will happen to you.Look after yourself and your young family
something for the better will come out of all of this.It seems hard but believe me things will work out for you and for the better.Stay positive mate,
Cheers,
John.

[1976_michelle]

Im sorry this has happened, I went through a traumatic breakup a few years ago but thank god there were no children involved (only hairy four legged ones)

She should be helping financially... if you had done the runner you'd be the worst person in the world if you weren't contributing child support, why is it different for her? She should be made to backpay...

[nugge t]

Mate, sorry to hear of your recent troubles....equally delighted to hear the good news story of the people at DHL.

I have seen your Defender often in the local area. Is there anything we can do to help out?

[Landy Smurf]

good to see there are still some caring people in the world. I am sorry about what has happened to you but I am glad there has been some good.
All the best to you and your girls

[jacknz]

My 2nd wife and I are both 're-cycled' as we like to say, much better this time around, I reckon you have to go through the bad to get to the good stuff.
Best wishes for the New Year from NZ

Jack

[kenleyfred]

Again, thanks to all. I have been on forum and received some very kind pm's, however after my original post I am actually feeling embarrassed by the response. It's not a nice time for my girl's and myself. The generosity of DHL and all your kind words have been appreciated.
I am normally a very shy person and opening up like this especially on the internet has not been easy.

I don't want to say bad things about my wife. We aren't divorced, only separated, by her choice. She has moved out. I/we are really hoping for a reversal, that she comes back to us. I'll have her back in a heartbeat.

Financially and emotionally this is tough times. but hopefully it will pass over and come good again.

Thanks again
Kenley

[cewilson]

The hardest part is 'moving on' so to speak, and the reason behind this is while ever you live in hope then so will the girls. It is amazing how much children sense your emotions and hang off of every more you make.

I truly do hope it all works out for you and the girls, but please don't live your life on that hope. It's never easy facing reality and it hurts like hell late at night when the kids are in bed and you've got too much time to think. But you've already shown that you are strong enough to do what's required.

Good luck mate and well done on your efforts so far.


Cheers
Chris

[superquag]

What the world needs...is men (Fathers..) who are passionate/motivated about whatever floats their boats... Not trying to fill the (perceived) needs of the world or Society, or Family members...


If this New You interests your Wife, well thats a bonus. :) - If not, it was'nt going to happen anyway but you will be so much better equipped to deal with that sadness.

- The kids will appreciate and respond to your leadership.



From a broken home in my childhood. Been there-done that.

[weeds]

geez mate, i too like yourself kept my separation to myself, easy to say now but in hind sight i should have talk too others a bit more than i did

when i sold you the kelly kettle and you mention you couldn't afford to pick up your defer you still paid me.....man what was i thinking, from memory you were in a rush now i understand why

the thing that annoys me now is the kelly kettle was given to me by kelly kettle so i should have passed it on at no cost.....

if you need a hand or a chat drop us a line or come over......don't be a stranger