When to call time...?

[Tins]

It appears to be decision time. Time to move on from lost hopes and failed dreams. The past half a decade has been a bit rough, and life lost track. I realise now that it will stay off track if I cling to the past, and hold on to things I will never use, projects I will never complete. Lots of wiser heads on here than mine, so I am going to ask for thoughts.


My D2 has been a challenge, due to poor choices and incompetent workshops I will not name, along with years of being away from home. However, it is going well and is now just a couple of jobs away from registration and daily use. Yay! I really like it, and it is so much better to drive than the Ford.


The OKA is pretty good now mechanically. Cosmetically it looks a little like something out of a Mad Max dystopia, and thus needs my attention next. Luckily it’s just a box, and even I can paint that. Club plates for her.


Here’s where I need some wisdom. I have a SIII 109 single cab, std 2.25 four cylinder petrol. Has a huge LPG tank and certified conversion ( not my idea, tank is out of test ). It is complete, but needs attention to some body details. The engine is not good, as I pulled the head off to fix the gasket, but I was an alcoholic in those days so it got left, and the bores are rusty. I have many new parts that I doubt I’ll fit now. It could be brought back to life easily if there was time and a decent shed, and the $$$. I also have a Disco 1, 1994 300TDi. This was always a rough car, body wise. But it went well, was a daily for me for a while. It has some good bones, like a Suffix L R380 from Ashcrofts. 10 years old but only maybe 40,000 km on it. Maxidrive reduction gears ( 49% IIRC, but can check I guess.) and a Maxidrive rear locker. When I refit the timing belt it will run, but it really needs a new cylinder head. This was to be the basis for a ute conversion, and it would be a beauty. But, it would need to be a sort of ground up rebuild to get it to RWC standard. Or, the two could make one. 300TDi R380 LT 230 in the Series.


Thing is, I now will have to move on from this 4 bedroom house that only I live in and can’t really afford any more, so I have to sell up. I don’t like letting things go, but these two cars are a stone around my neck I guess, as I don't actually have anywhere to go, to take them.


So, do I offer them up here? As they are? I think I know the answer, but I need confirmation I guess.


Long post. Sorry. Any input welcomed.

EDIT. Penultimate para edited. Will ask the question in the appropriate section.

[DieselLSE]

Firstly Tins, envision where you would like to be in, say, five years time and work out a plan to get you there. You will find that an enormous weight will magically disappear from your shoulders once you divest yourself of any unfinished or unfulfilled project that you know deep down is no longer viable. Just because it was once a good idea, doesn't mean it still is. Also, we often worry about unfinished projects as though we have an obligation to complete them. We don't. Will any of your decisions adversely affect anyone else? If not, do what is right for you.
Secondly, I may be interested in the SIII for Sunday Island. Roadworthiness is irrelevant, but a reliable SIII (I have a spare engine) would be useful.
Either post pics or send me a PM.

[Tins]

Firstly Tins, envision where you would like to be in, say, five years time and work out a plan to get you there. You will find that an enormous weight will magically disappear from your shoulders once you divest yourself of any unfinished or unfulfilled project that you know deep down is no longer viable.

thanks. I know intellectually you are correct. I have certain mental health issues that have got in the way in the past. These are now being treated ( at 70! ) and so I see it more clearly.


Secondly, I may be interested in the SIII for Sunday Island. Roadworthiness is irrelevant, but a reliable SIII (I have a spare engine) would be useful.
Either post pics or send me a PM.

Will do. Only pics I have now are of the car when I was driving it. It is in many pieces currently. I have to move it out and get it cleared of stuff.

[4bee]

thanks. I know intellectually you are correct. I have certain mental health issues that have got in the way in the past. These are now being treated ( at 70! ) and so I see it more clearly.



Will do. Only pics I have now are of the car when I was driving it. It is in many pieces currently. I have to move it out and get it cleared of stuff.


BLIMEY MATEY!! I had no idea things were that Grim.[bigsad]


Personally, I think Diesell's offer is one you can't refuse, having just cleaned out my big shed. Already crap is building up again. Too many things have too many Memories.


Best wishes JT. :rulez:[bigsad][smilebigeye]

[Tins]

BLIMEY MATEY!! I had no idea things were that Grim.[bigsad]




Not unique, Des. Bad things happen. How you cope with them is what matters. I didn't. I have ADD ( no H in my life[bigsad]), and am apparently mildly bi-polar. Throw grief and very large quantities of alcohol into that mix and the story tells itself.

I have lived here for 25 years, 6 of them alone. I know about memories. Sorta the point of this thread really. Thought I had a new start, a potential, in Qld, but that was another fail. So, time to get on before time runs out. 540 days since I went cold turkey on the grog ( I looked it up, not counting. It doesn't mean anything to me as I never actually missed it ). It's the Qld thing that has got me thinking about all this. Can't rely on external influences, as they can be like smoke.

Got an agent coming on Monday so I best get to cleaning up.

[4bee]

Not unique, Des. Bad things happen. How you cope with them is what matters. I didn't. I have ADD ( no H in my life[bigsad]), and am apparently mildly bi-polar. Throw grief and very large quantities of alcohol into that mix and the story tells itself.

I have lived here for 25 years, 6 of them alone. I know about memories. Sorta the point of this thread really. Thought I had a new start, a potential, in Qld, but that was another fail. So, time to get on before time runs out. 540 days since I went cold turkey on the grog ( I looked it up, not counting. It doesn't mean anything to me as I never actually missed it ). It's the Qld thing that has got me thinking about all this. Can't rely on external influences, as they can be like smoke.

Got an agent coming on Monday so I best get to cleaning up.

Good luck with that I hope they ain't a Shonk.



Went for a dry run on this property recently ( 10 months ago to be exact} Gotta keep ones eye's on the ball.

Their 1% Commission is a killer & summat like 30 grand for what, a few photos & brochure etc. & I suspected they already had some one in mind so bugger all to do actually, for them.

Just because their Rule Book says they can does not mean they have to. Some hard negotiating coming up I can see.:bat:


I think I may dig a 6'hole in the garden & they can just shovel me in when the time comes.

:bangin::Rolling: Actually I know a bloke with a small Drain Digger.

[Tins]

Their 1% Commission is a killer & summat like 30 grand for what, a few photos & brochure etc. & I suspected they already had some one in mind so bugger all to do actually, for them.



Yep, but if I try to self market the place I might as well dig that hole here.

[4bee]

Yep, but if I try to self market the place I might as well dig that hole here.



Yeah John, I realise they have costs but by yiminy there are costs & loaded up costs.
(Apologies for the bit of Swedish/British creeping in there [bigrolf] Keep smiling John.

[Tins]

Yeah John, I realise they have costs but by yiminy there are costs & loaded up costs.


Oh I know. Had to sell mum's place a couple of years ago. No wonder the two principals drive a Range Rover and a Defender L663.


(Apologies for the bit of Swedish/British creeping in there [bigrolf] Keep smiling John.

Doing my best. Just making the effort to ask helps.

Sorry Des, but now I'm always going to picture you like this:


https://youtu.be/RVsfvbZTBzU'si=EJzr-_QXQTL-b1GV

[loanrangie]

If your post sale budget will allow a small semi rural property then keep the series and oka and offload the rest, give you something to work on and keep you busy.

[4bee]

Oh I know. Had to sell mum's place a couple of years ago. No wonder the two principals drive a Range Rover and a Defender L663.



Doing my best. Just making the effort to ask helps.

Sorry Des, but now I'm always going to picture you like this:


https://youtu.be/RVsfvbZTBzU'si=EJzr-_QXQTL-b1GV

Thanks, I think? Got one of those with a Superman outfit?

[bigrolf]

Today 'er indoors came out of Hospital & I have been going flat chat ever since. Originally was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer two weeks ago & told bugger all could be done.[bigsad] Long story, but seems she is now ok with Routine visits to ors'piddle monthly for a check & more jabs. with a Scan in the cement Mixer na & den.


It is supposed to be one of 4 types of 8 that can be treated.

Lucky or wot?

[Tins]

It is supposed to be one of 4 types of 8 that can be treated.

Lucky or wot?

Very. Count your blessings. Jan's liver cancer wasn't, but may have been if found earlier. This is why I have regular blood tests these days.

[Slunnie]

I'm really sorry that you're having to make these decisions. There is a part of you invested into every project and those aspirations and dreams are hard to let go of.

I'm finding myself in a similar boat where things have taken so long, or stopped, that I soon will have to make a commitment to them and I have to generate a plan to make it happen otherwise it wont.

I think it is one of those things where only you can make the decision and deep down you will know what is right for you. If you are able to make it happen it will be awesome, if its not going to happen as it sounds, then I hope there will still be something else to sink your teeth into to keep you going - we all need that. Keep me in the loop re the SIII also if you go that way - My stalled project, a rolling V8 County chassis needs a SIII ute cab too.

[4bee]

Very. Count your blessings. Jan's liver cancer wasn't, but may have been if found earlier. This is why I have regular blood tests these days.

Very similar here as well John.
First noted just before XMAS 2022 but for Type 2 Diabetes (which is present in her Family) & that is what they were chasing, but one doesn't have to be a Medico to realise it was summat more, that one's wife ain't right, but of course she wouldn't listen to me & had faith in the GP. Fair enough, & medications were administered for that.but it made no difference. She lost one helluva lot of weight & was Skin & Bone( Belsen like) This time she listened to me & our youngest daughter (Young??? She is 61) But has had some experience in aged care. She went for a scan at a Local Hospital & things moved very fast from thereon a & we are where we are today. Apparently it was the Cancer giving her Pancreas a workout not the other way around so someone was on the right track eventually.

EDIT. Have had another opinion thatthis may be a bit of crap. WTF!
The confirmation of the real problem was made the same day as our 66th wedding anniversary. GREAT!

I reckon another 2 or 3 weeks in Hospital would have been a good idea, for me that is, & I was getting on so well with my cooking & General Housekeeping. "Meat pie for one? coming right up" Apologies for waffling on but our experience may help someone on here one day.

[Tins]

Very similar here as well John.
First noted just before XMAS 2022 but for Type 2 Diabetes (which is present in her Family) & that is what they were chasing, but one doesn't have to be a Medico to realise it was summat more, that one's wife ain't right, but of course she wouldn't listen to me & had faith in the GP. Fair enough, & medications were administered for that.but it made no difference. She lost one helluva lot of weight & was Skin & Bone( Belsen like) This time she listened to me & our youngest daughter (Young??? She is 61) But has had some experience in aged care. She went for a scan at a Local Hospital & things moved very fast from thereon a & we are where we are today. Apparently it was the Cancer giving her Pancreas a workout not the other way around so someone was on the right track eventually.

The confirmation of the real problem was made the same day as our 66th wedding anniversary. GREAT!

I reckon another 2 or 3 weeks in Hospital would have been a good idea, for me that is, & I was getting on so well with my cooking & General Housekeeping. "Meat pie for one? coming right up" Apologies for waffling on but our experience may help someone on here one day.

Don't apologise. When Jan was diagnosed I started a thread on here that went for a while and humbled me with the level of care demonstrated. Jan was a homebirth midwife, amongst other things. She also got pretty crook years ago, before the whole AIDS scare. Had a transfusion, and they didn't screen blood like they do now. Either that, or some blood transfer at a birth, gave her Hep C. No symptoms. But it slowly killed her liver. It is what it is. But I get tested. Because she didn't.

Saw a bloke today when I was visiting the local OKA and LR doctor ( bloke must be mad ). This fella used to be on the Council, and had a pie shop, great pies. Haven't seen him for a bit. Looking a bit crook. He used to have a 110 double cab ute, with a couple of mutts. Asked him if he had sold it. No way he says, I was up the Kimberley last year. Strewth, I thought he'd struggle getting into the thing. Asked him how old, he says 82. On his own. He knew Jan. I told him I have an OKA. He said "Well ****ing get in it and go". Glad I bumped into him.

66!!! I was four when you two tied the knot. Good innings mate. But you're not out yet.

[4bee]

Don't apologise. When Jan was diagnosed I started a thread on here that went for a while and humbled me with the level of care demonstrated. Jan was a homebirth midwife, amongst other things. She also got pretty crook years ago, before the whole AIDS scare. Had a transfusion, and they didn't screen blood like they do now. Either that, or some blood transfer at a birth, gave her Hep C. No symptoms. But it slowly killed her liver. It is what it is. But I get tested. Because she didn't.

Saw a bloke today when I was visiting the local OKA and LR doctor ( bloke must be mad ). This fella used to be on the Council, and had a pie shop, great pies. Haven't seen him for a bit. Looking a bit crook. He used to have a 110 double cab ute, with a couple of mutts. Asked him if he had sold it. No way he says, I was up the Kimberley last year. Strewth, I thought he'd struggle getting into the thing. Asked him how old, he says 82. On his own. He knew Jan. I told him I have an OKA. He said "Well ****ing get in it and go". Glad I bumped into him.

66!!! I was four when you two tied the knot. Good innings mate. But you're not out yet.

My eldest Daughter did a couple of years as a Midwife but these days she has turned into a right piece........ .
Sounds like excellent advice so what are you waiting for? I know, the real estate wallahs.
Had I known, you could have our Page Boy. No, I had that knot tied 50 years ago.[bighmmm] Sturgeon was HM the Q's Honorary Sturgeon in SA at the time.

[Tins]

Sounds like excellent advice so what are you waiting for? I know, the real estate wallahs.


Lot more than that. Deciding where to go, and how to get there. Letting go. Walking away from a life which in reality no longer exists. What to keep, what not to. And, a desire to leave on my terms.

Funny how we associate places with memories, when in fact they come with us, in our heads. This is a valuable realisation. The past is a foreign country which I can no longer visit, except in my mind. I even deleted about 10,000 photos from the computer the other day. Quite cathartic, and also demonstrates how pointless so many of them were, taken because there is no limit imposed by needing film. The ubiquity of phone cameras diminishes the uniqueness of photos. I kept about 16,000 though.....🙂

[4bee]

Lot more than that. Deciding where to go, and how to get there. Letting go. Walking away from a life which in reality no longer exists. What to keep, what not to. And, a desire to leave on my terms.

Funny how we associate places with memories, when in fact they come with us, in our heads. This is a valuable realisation. The past is a foreign country which I can no longer visit, except in my mind. I even deleted about 10,000 photos from the computer the other day. Quite cathartic, and also demonstrates how pointless so many of them were, taken because there is no limit imposed by needing film. The ubiquity of phone cameras diminishes the uniqueness of photos. I kept about 16,000 though.....🙂

That is all very well, but unlike the olde images we all took & kept it is hard to imagine that with this technology today there will be bugger all as a moment in time for the future.

Once you could pull the olde KODAK Envelope out & discuss the subject. How many B&W images does one see when looking for the history of summat? Lots.

[Tins]

That is all very well, but unlike the olde images we all took & kept it is hard to imagine that with this technology today there will be bugger all as a moment in time for the future.

Once you could pull the olde KODAK Envelope out & discuss the subject. How any B&W images does one see when looking for the history of summat? Lots.

I agree. But on a personal level I do not need around 200 photos taken moments apart of someone I don't remember at a place I've never been. Or photos of people who freeloaded at Jan and my large dinners who have been totally conspicuous by their absence since she died. Or photos of a Quiet Lion Tour I was not on, when I have similar pics taken on those that I was. Etc.

[austastar]

Hi,
Walking past a local retirement village, we noticed one for sale. Looked in the windows, quite nice.
The gardener noticed us and asked if we would like him to unlock so we could wander through.
3 bedrooms, access to/from the garage, all mod cons and refurbished etc .
Nice.
But looking at all the 'assets' we currently have, even selling fully furnished would be a nightmare.
It will come, one day, but still so many projects, so little time and not all that much energy these days .
Cheers

[prelude]

These are the tough questions in life at times.

One year ago I threw and gave away (very little sold) about 90% of my belongings since I sold my house which included a 360m2 shed. It was a very hard life lesson and emotionally quite taxing. The only reason I got through is because it was very hard work, I had mates helping me who could handle or ignore my crankiness and I had something to look forward to.

About a decade earlier I was in the unfortunate situation that I was forced to think about having to move out (divorce and all that ugliness) and when I did the mental exercise back then I came to the following conclusion: when I finally mentally got to a point that I could let go of one of my prized possessions, it all of a sudden became easy to do the rest. They were all pretty much equal. What it taught me though is that I was capable of doing it!

What I did in the end was save some stuff that would allow me to keep a hobby and stay busy and my two classic prelude's (go figure). This way I was somewhat future proof and it became a bit easier to let go of the rest. After all, for example I had saved stuff to use in some project that was more than 2 decades out of date and although I -could- make that still work, it was not going to be up to standards.

The most important thing I think is to have something to "do it for" to look forward to. Make sure that that is a realistic future and has a decent chance of success because if not, and that is the situation I find myself in today (see my other post about "luck" or lack thereof), you run the risk of getting pulled back into doubt, nostalgia if not melancholy.

I'm pretty sure you will make the right choice mate. 70 years young, you still have time to finish some nice trips and projects right? :)

Since you are dry, I'll drink one to your health tonight!

-P

[ChookD2]

Moved house from Heathcote NSW to Bellmere Qld in early 2017. Cleaning the house out we had been in for 10yrs and thought we would be in for another 10 was a chore.
Filled 2 x 4m3 bins with ****. I cleaned out my shed and I applied some rules.
1. If I hadn't used it in the last year or 2 then I didn't need it.
2. If I was unlikely to use it in the next year or 2 then I didn't need it.
3. If I had forgotten I had it, I didn't need it.
4. All the "I'll use that for something one day" stuff. You probably won't.

Applied similar rules to the inside of the house as well. In particular clothing. Doesn't fit - gone. Don't wear it - gone.

After 5 years in Bellmere there came a separation, unfortunate but things happen. Yet another clean out.

Then this year daughter and partner and kids moved to Qld so we all moved in together. You guessed it another clean out.

Unless something has a particular sentimental value (and there will be plenty) you sometimes have to get ruthless with what stays and what goes.

Just remember, we are here for you if you need to bounce ideas like this and we are confident you will make all the right decisions, because these decisions affect nobody but you.

[Tins]

Moved house from Heathcote NSW to Bellmere Qld in early 2017. Cleaning the house out we had been in for 10yrs and thought we would be in for another 10 was a chore.
Filled 2 x 4m3 bins with ****. I cleaned out my shed and I applied some rules.
1. If I hadn't used it in the last year or 2 then I didn't need it.
2. If I was unlikely to use it in the next year or 2 then I didn't need it.
3. If I had forgotten I had it, I didn't need it.
4. All the "I'll use that for something one day" stuff. You probably won't.

Applied similar rules to the inside of the house as well. In particular clothing. Doesn't fit - gone. Don't wear it - gone.

After 5 years in Bellmere there came a separation, unfortunate but things happen. Yet another clean out.

Then this year daughter and partner and kids moved to Qld so we all moved in together. You guessed it another clean out.

Unless something has a particular sentimental value (and there will be plenty) you sometimes have to get ruthless with what stays and what goes.

Just remember, we are here for you if you need to bounce ideas like this and we are confident you will make all the right decisions, because these decisions affect nobody but you.

Thanks, Ray. That is pretty much where I am. Luckily for me I have all the really sentimental stuff already boxed. I did this to keep the gannets out of it.

As for the rest, there's a local hard rubbish collection next week... But, it's all the bloody tools! I suppose marketplace would help there. Have to keep some though.

Destination is the next thing. That day in Woodford it was all clear. But that fell over recently... Sigh.

[austastar]

Hi,
Would a local men's shed use the tools?
Cheers

[Tins]

Hi,
Would a local men's shed use the tools?
Cheers

Very likely. Thing is, while I like to think I'm the generous type, I am also a pensioner and could use the $$$. I will ponder.

[gromit]

Hi,
Would a local men's shed use the tools?
Cheers

Be careful as a lot of the time they keep them for a while and then sell them.

I attend a local Woodwork Club that's affiliated with the Men's Sheds and they often get tools & machinery from deceased estates. They kick around for a while then they tend to get moved on. Often sold to provide funds for the Club.

I'm a collector (hoarder ?) of tools. Since the Dandenong Trash & Treasure Market closed I haven't purchased anything and I'm getting withdrawal symptoms.

I should be downsizing but I still have a lot of projects to finish, always interested in acquiring tools and happy to pay.


Colin

[4bee]

Don't apologise. When Jan was diagnosed I started a thread on here that went for a while and humbled me with the level of care demonstrated. Jan was a homebirth midwife, amongst other things. She also got pretty crook years ago, before the whole AIDS scare. Had a transfusion, and they didn't screen blood like they do now. Either that, or some blood transfer at a birth, gave her Hep C. No symptoms. But it slowly killed her liver. It is what it is. But I get tested. Because she didn't.

Saw a bloke today when I was visiting the local OKA and LR doctor ( bloke must be mad ). This fella used to be on the Council, and had a pie shop, great pies. Haven't seen him for a bit. Looking a bit crook. He used to have a 110 double cab ute, with a couple of mutts. Asked him if he had sold it. No way he says, I was up the Kimberley last year. Strewth, I thought he'd struggle getting into the thing. Asked him how old, he says 82. On his own. He knew Jan. I told him I have an OKA. He said "Well ****ing get in it and go". Glad I bumped into him.

66!!! I was four when you two tied the knot. Good innings mate. But you're not out yet.


But some days it feels like 266. Don't ask.[bighmmm][bigrolf]

[Tins]

170 here some days... unless I screw up and double dose on my Ritalin, like today... Ritalin writes cheques my body can't cash.