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stevo68
7th April 2007, 09:28 AM
Last night a part of me died when I held my best mate in my arms as he took his last breaths. It was almost as if he waited for me to get to him before he past on. The how's and why's won't bring him back, suffice to say "the escapist" in the family led him to an adventure he won't come back from. If only the latch had been on the gate for her, he would still be here, as out of the 10 times she nicked off he went maybe once. This time he was silly enough to follow her.

So there I was driving around looking for them last night, when my partner rang to say she had a call from people up the road and that they had the "escapist" and that Benzy looked like he had been hit. Worst possible feeling, as I drove up I could see him on the side of the road, not moving. I jumped out and thought he was already gone. Not till I lifted his head in my arms did he make a gasp, body arching. I felt his back, his spine was snapped, I knew he was almost gone. He tried to turn to look at me then he was gone.

Maybe Im fortunate in that as an adult I have not experienced any real loss, for sure Ive been through divorce and seperation from my children, but they were still there and are. He is gone and I have never been so devastated. I sit here now, eyes blurred, as normally he would be right next to me on the verandah. The sound of his collar and he would walk around the verandah to whereever I would be. The sound of his bark as he see's the cat ( never been a cat dog this one), just his prescence. He was also a big part of my childrens life and they are equally upset, seeing my 10,8 and 4 yr old last night sobbing only added to the scene. My partner, who sometimes found him to be a big boof head was just as upset.

Benzy came into my life after my marriage brokedown, previous to that I had to sadly put my other shepherd down, as she had a condition that couldnt be rectified. So after the breakdown, living by myself, my father took me to a breeder where my previous shepherd had come from and we got Benzy. He was named after the Merc that I used to have and "lost' through marriage etc. 10 houses we have lived in together, always my companion, always my protector, just always there through the good and the bad times. Never a dog so loyal, to others chagrin as he only really listened to me :D , a large dog that was so gentle with the children with my 2 from previous since they were 2&3 and Connor with my partner since he was born.

Im not ashamed to say that I cannot remember the last time I cried my eyes out, and still am. The worst was trying to find a spot to bury him, with 8 acres you'd reckon one would find one spot that was soft.....nope. I think that only made things worse, so under the lights of the D3, I dug until it was big enough to lay to rest my best mate. It will be something burned in my memory for years to come, I guess the first time is the hardest. I then had my last beer with him before the dirt went on.

When I have read recently and past of people who have lost their dogs, I twinge in the hope that I do not have to experience that. I had hoped if anything that he would pass on of old age, not the way he did. I love my dog and miss him already, his prescence in my life was always a comfort, something that some people can understand, others not. At least he will have something written about him, like his brothers and sisters before him, whereby one realises you can't take anything for granted and that how these animals bring something truly special to those that love them. Rest In Peace Benzy from Stephen, Sharlea, True, Ashton and Connor,

Regards

Stevo

neil 90
7th April 2007, 09:40 AM
so sorry to hear about benzy:( :( always very sad losing a mate of any species.

4bee
7th April 2007, 09:43 AM
:( That's really touching, Stevo.
Bad luck that he went this way, but all things considered, they would not normally outlive us & the day will always come, as much as we would like to put it off.

At least you have very fond memories of Benzy, & your heart will break for weeks to come but eventually he will pass into happy memories where you can laugh about his life.

Chin up.

incisor
7th April 2007, 10:07 AM
sorry to hear of you loss mate... it sucks but dying is part of living.

nearly all the dogs i have owned have hung on till i got to them before passing, a very powerful event....

takes a fair sort of hole to bury a shepard, been there done that and i will be doing another one in the next year or so the way my current dog is deteriorating... am not looking forward to losing him.

Grizzly_Adams
7th April 2007, 10:55 AM
I'm sorry to hear about your loss Steve. Reading about it brought tears to my eyes, again :dbcry:

It's always so hard when someone so close to you passes. I hope you can remember the good times you had with him, always.

numpty
7th April 2007, 11:09 AM
Life, or the lack of it, sucks sometimes. Sorry to hear about your mate, know how you feel.

Ken
7th April 2007, 12:13 PM
My heart goes out to you Steve its never easy to lose ya best mate may Benzy's memory live in your heart forever .Ken

hiline
7th April 2007, 12:23 PM
sorry i hear about benzy mate :(


and thanks for the tears after reading your story :angel: ;)
very touching i must say


sorry once again

stevo68
7th April 2007, 12:26 PM
Thanks for all the kind words and thoughts and understanding of what it is like. The kids broke down a while ago when they were out playing and realised he wasnt around as he is always there watching/ guarding as a shepherd does. The missus came home a little while ago from shopping with a beautiful card and a present. It was a statuette of a German Shepherd with an uncanny resemblence of Benzy. So it now holds a proud place in the house with Benzys collar around his neck :D , again thanks for the thoughts,

Regards

Stevo

Camo
7th April 2007, 01:28 PM
Zoe and I are sorry to hear about your dog steve:(

Really not fun ... my Border Collie died 10 years ago and still miss her:( still not keen on getting another

Hope you and the family have a good easter

Camo+Zoe

p38arover
7th April 2007, 02:19 PM
Bloody heck! Sorry to read that, Steve. It brought tears to my eyes.

All the best,

Ron

stevo68
7th April 2007, 03:50 PM
We held a funeral for him this afternoon, took down flowers to his grave and all said what he meant to us. My 4 yr old doesnt quite understand, asking when he was coming back :( . With my older 2, when we lost the first one we told them she went away to a farm, couldnt get away with it this time and I wont forget the looks on their faces as they said goodbye, but reminded them to keep him in our memory. All in all just a very sad time, but helps with the support and thoughts of people on here and at home, thanks again,

Regards

Stevo

UncleHo
7th April 2007, 04:01 PM
Our sympathies go out to you Steve and Family, as my Wife and I have had the onerous task of intering several of our dogs over the years and it is never easy particularly when the daughter was young, we have only lost one to a motor vehicle and that was in front of our then 4 year old, she has never forgotten :(

Rest in Peace Benzy.



Kevin & Sue

MickG
7th April 2007, 06:06 PM
Jeez, sorry to hear about Benzy Stevo, very moving tribute to him indeed and sympathies to the family as well - never easy and know how you feel. Will never forget the day our dog Shiela left us when we were kids and then when our collie Harvey had to go just a few years ago.........often taken for granted what an animal means to another man but the hurt of a loss is still the same.

Thinking of you and the family and will catch up soon.

Mick, Ems and the boys.

Loaded
7th April 2007, 07:19 PM
Sorry to here about that Stevo, I know the feeling as I lost one of my closest family members last year to cancer. Loosing one of my dogs would be just as painful and it saddens me to here this news about a fellow friends best friend.
All I can say is the pain will slowly go in time, as time dose heal all wounds.
Just remember the good times mate.

Loaded. :(

Outlaw
7th April 2007, 09:39 PM
Heya buddy, really don't know what to say as i wish the day will never come with my 2... and really hard to see the keyboard at the moment.

I'll have a drink or 3 for Benzy tonight

harry
8th April 2007, 05:44 AM
so sorry to hear of your loss, bit teary myself and i do feel for you and your family.
as most have said our pets are part of our lives and will not be forgotten.

Pedro_The_Swift
8th April 2007, 06:07 AM
my sympathies Stevo,,

a dog that will be missed that much, must have had a good life,,

and thats about the best we can do.

landrovermick
8th April 2007, 06:45 AM
geez mate - at least he knew his mate was there when he went.......

we think of then as our mates, but i recon if they could talk they would say we are the bestest mates ever.

x-box
8th April 2007, 08:39 AM
Stevo - lost for words mate....
I have been through the same emotions with dogs before and it will hurt for some time to come, but hang in there and remember the good times!
Our thoughts are with you
Louis, Denise and Pierre

stevo68
8th April 2007, 10:32 AM
Thanks again for all your thoughts, we have all been reading them and it helps. Seems like ol Benzy as upped the beer intake in his memory, I know it has here :) . The positive I can take out of this is that whether it be a beloved pet, friend, family, work and so many other things, is that these things cannot be taken for granted. Standing out on the verandah ( his main place) a short while ago having a coffee and a ciggie ( was meant to quit this break:eek: ), I realised how quiet it was, almost lifeless. His partner in crime obviously misses him, but he was always the life out there, whether wrestling with her, barking at the cat, coming up to you to say hi. I walk out there now and nothing. As much as I wanted to strangle him sometimes for his persistant barking and chasing the cat around the house ( him outside, it stirring him from the safety of inside), Id give anything for that right now.

The old man rang me last night as he couldnt call during the day as he was also upset as he had bought Benzy for me, he asked me whether I would get another one. I told him I wasnt sure. He reminded me that as a child shepherds have always been in my blood, like my uncle, and that when the time was right was sure I would get another. I said if that was the case, it could only be from where Benz and my previous girl Elsa came from as they were both beautifully spirited animals, and Benz carried many of Elsa's traits. Nothing can replace my mate, but maybe with time I will have a new mate. For now though I will as many have said remember the good times and remove from my mind how he went. Thanks again, I have been really touched and it shows how lucky I am to know such great people,

Regards

Stevo and Family