PLEASE read this

Sarah, let me tell you how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I too have never met Simon but from the other posts i am sure i would have liked him. I too have planed to quietly disappear on many occasions for many years now,and the advise given by others on this post have made me think seriously about getting help. My thoughts and prayers are with you and you son.

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Originally Posted by Hymie

Sarah, if what I say here is hurtful I apologise up front. and if you ask the Mods to remove this post I understand.
In reading your posts about the tragedy you are living through I can't help but seeing a pretty typical pattern of behaviour in Simons actions.

You have obviously just moved house, a pretty stressful time, how was his mood then was he flat? Was he down when the decision was made to move?
After the move, I take it from other peoples posts that Simon was pretty upbeat, that sounds pretty typical in my experience of the Depression cycle, a Dip, a Flat then a High.

Look, I don't know how to say this delicately so here go's.

The high is the euphoria we get when a decision has been made that we feel good about, one that we see will break the cycle.
I know, I've been there before, I'll go there again.
I've got a really nice secluded spot in the bush where nobody will find me, The plan is to go missing in action one day...
I'm not attention seeking in any way, I just want people with no experience of The Black Dog to recognise the signs in people they love who suffer, I know, my wife suffers when I get it and that's really hard for me to see.

To others reading this who get bitten by the dog, take Sarah's plea to heart. Please talk to someone.
You can PM me if you feel the need.

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Hello...He was diagnosed as a manic depressive many years ago. So when he was up he was UP and when he was down there was such depth it would take all my strength to get him up again. Simon had lost sight of his swings in the last month or so.I remember saying to him 3-4 weeks ago that I felt he should review his medication as it wasn't working, his mood swings were getting faster and more extreme. He couldn't see that he was on the rollercoaster. I braced myself any time he was in a good mood because for me it was only a matter of time until he went down and hard. He had gotten to the point where in my opinion depression is it's most dangerous. Where the person suffering can't distinguish any difference in their mood or their actions. If you can't see you're about to drive into a brick wall how are you meant to avoid it, you know?
But over the last few weeks we have been so busy and so stressed with moving and assorted other trivial things that I stopped paying attention to it. But as I said...it was his battle to fight, I could never win it for him

After Chris Hardie's passing I remember an article in the local paper about his wife setting up a support group in Armadale for people left after such a tragedy.

I can't find any details about it now, but I'm sure someone local could point you in the right direction (if you are after that kind of support).

Sarah,

I am so saddened to here of your loss. I had the pleasure of meeting Simon only the once and the passion spoken of in your post was very very evident in Simon. My thoughts are with you and your son at this time.

Let me echo what Jurgens and Kieren have said, you and Simon have been very supportive in the planned event and that has been much appreciated. Please do not concern yourself with any of those matters just now.

On behalf of myself, Jurgens and Kieren, if there is any way that we can be of assistance, please do not hesitate to let us know.

with my sincere condolences,

Neil

Sorry to hear of your loss.
Best wishes for your family.

sorry to hear this, John

I am very sorry to hear this. It is all too common these days. Over on Outer Limits there is a thread about this and has been there for some time. Too many good people are taken early because of the pressures of life.

Ian

Hello Sarah

Not knowing you I was surprised how strongly your post affected me. You have many offers of support from this community and that is a resource hopefully you will be able to use. The next few weeks will be a sad chaos but after the things that must be done are done, I do hope you will look at what you need to do for you!

Warm wishes and condolences

Lindsay

G'day Sarah. Truly devastating and just so very sad. I hope others can take something from your insights. You and your family are in our thoughts.
From another Simon and Sarah.

thank you all...for those who pray could you please send positive thoughts and prayers for Simon's mum. She hasn't taken the news well at all and is in hospital.