Had the opposite happen yesterday.
Female acquaintance called asking what to do.
Young bloke had driven through her fence and father wanted to settle it privately , I assume to prevent a claim on the son's insurance.
She was scared that unless she agreed she would be victimised by the father ie her house would be vandalized.
I advised her to claim on her house insurance.
IMHO no good outcome comesfrom trying to be nice and understand the other person's point of view.
I came to this conclusion many years ago when a young girl backed into my car in a car park. The damage was about $800 to my car. I went to her home to offer to settle it privately to avoid her losing her no claim bonus and any discount.
I was roundly abused by her mother and the girl did not think the accident was her fault even though the insurance company had told her it was!
I can also understand the issue with dementia. A friend who was shortly after diagnosed with Louis Body Dementia was driving us in his Pajero. It was obvious he forgot where the gear stick was or the position of the gears . For a few terrifying moments we wandered onto the other side of the luckily quiet country road as he looked down to find the gear. We told our friend we would never ride in the car with him driving again , and that he should be stopped from driving. She was concerned with loss of independence and was in denial of his dementia.
Regards Philip A
