UPDATE
I contacted the company Ladas suggested and they were able to supply me with a very thorough quote, that included the surface area & heat exchange calculations. They were able to confirm that the S/S unit would be safe for drinking (potable) water. However, their price was $550 :o, which is a bit steep for a shower unit.
I ended up buying 2 of the 20 Plate exchangers from the ebay guy, at $100ea including postage. I had to get 2 to get that price, and a mates taking the 2nd one. They just arrived now, so I will keep you updated on their performance. I'll try to get flow rate and temperature figures once I've got it installed.
The ones I ended up getting have a greater surface area than the more expensive ones, and they had been calculated to deliver water at 50 degrees!!! So I may need to set up a pump with a T-Piece, going to a COLD water tap, and a HOT water tap via the exchanger.
Hmmm, HOT and COLD running water, suitable to drinking & food preparation. :D