Thread: It's been a real @#$%8 of a week for me

Real sorry to hear that. I hope you and your family and your friend and his family pull through. Not nice.
What irks me is the school lying, do they realy think the kids wont find out. Better to tell them arrange counselling and get kids to know there is help available and humiliate the little *****s who were bullying him.

13 - Hell's Bells! That's terrible. Why should any 13 year old be in such a position.

A girl my daughter knew at Penrith High School committed suicide by kneeling down in front of a train at Faulconbridge pedestrian crossing.

She was being bullied and had already moved from one school to Penrith because of bullying at the first school.

We don't know if that's why she did it but many drew that conclusion.

My daughter was also bullied at at Penrith High and we had hell's own trouble finding out why she was so often moody, crying, and upset. Once we found out we were up to the school like a shot - but they were next to useless - they didn't want to know. (It might be a Selective School for students but it isn't for teachers! )

Bullying by girls isn't always physical. They use mental bullying tactics, for example - excluding them from a group.

Ron

G'day Rovernaut.

My condolences to yourself and family, and also to the family of the deceased, my wife is a member of an online dog group, and it was somebody that she corrosponded with, that lost her Daughter in the double suicide a couple of months ago down there, and the lady was devastated, I had to go and identify my neighbour quite a few years ago (I was 20 at the time) when he commited suicide over his wife's involvement with a religious group, it is something that 40 years later springs clearly to mind.

Uncle Ho

Terrible thing to hear about, terrible thing to go through, my condolences to you and your family.

Regards
Simon

Condolences to all concerned at such a terrible time.
I listened to the interview on the radio with one of the Fathers of the 2 girls, was rather inciteful, & may I say what a BRAVE man to do so. No-one should have to out live their children. One never really understands the motives of teenage suicide & it is always sad directly involved or not.
School bullying is nothing new, In primary school I was the bully. Most of the bullies have issues they don't know how to deal with so they think they have something to prove & try to prove it the wrong way. In high school I saw heaps of kids get bullied, by this time I had seen how senseless violence is.
There will always have to be people trying to find new ways to help the kids cope with the stresses as Life seems to move faster & faster & there is precious little time now to just be a kid. I think we need to stop the trend of them having to grow up so fast & relieve the stress on them a bit. God knows I will do everything to help my children make it..

Sorry to hear mate
But the ones that talk about it dont normaly do it so the signs could be hard to see, Im a father and dread this and hope it never happens , i just hope there is someone on my side and i never have to experience the horror of this sort of thing

Originally Posted by Rovernaut

I received the phone call from a close mate earlier this week that his 13 year old son had hung himself after school. His mother found him hanging from the pergola outside the kitchen window when she got home. After my the initial shock and sorrow, I started to become angry. Questions of why. I was at the hospital 13 years ago at this kids birth. My 11 and 13 year old sons play with him regulary, we have family Christmas parties, birthdays.
Then the sadness and shock reset back in. It's been a real #$$% of a week. It brought back memories of the 2 young girls that suicided a couple of months ago, in the next suburd. My mate's son is the next suburb after that. I wondered if there is a local epidemic. I started worrying a lot more over my sons.
The funeral was yesterday. My mate and his wife are still in extreme shock, and even with their loss, the mother still asked if my Boys were alright. The boy wasn't coping too well at school and was also apparently subjected to quite a bit of bullying.The school announced to the pupils that my mates' son had died from accidental electricution. They couldn't even tell the truth. My son went through hell in his primary school years.
I reflected that if this was the cause, It could have happened to me.
I don't know why I'm airing this here, probably just that I am still in shock and can't believe it happen, in fact I kind of refuse to believe it. And maybe I am advising all you parents to look at any signs in your children, because what seemed a happy go lucky kid ended his life without any indications. You just don't know what goes through their minds.

What horrific news, my heart goes out to the family and you and your family, I just read this as I was just about to shut the computer down for the night. My stomach turned over and I felt physically ill, I've always harboured fears my son would go this way, he is ADHD and was bullied terribly by the thugs they call bullies at school. I took my son to a meeting about ADHD and the speaker who is ADHD himself showed my son how to handle bullies, he said to turn the bullying back on the perpetrators and get right in their faces, he ended up with a few bruises, but he beat the crap out of most of them and they never bothered him again, he even got involved helping other kids that were being bullied, it took a lot of guts, but he got through school ok and now he's 20 years old, built like a brick sh!thouse and still gets right up in your face, I would not have coped if he had gone the way of your friends son, I would have just faded away, my sincerest condolonces to you all, Regards Frank.

Rovernaut, sorry to hear about this. At least we have this forum to share out thoughts on.

I believe kids think that others don't care about them. Remember the hugs we used to get as kids, well these days if we hug kids people think we are mad or have other motives. I was in a church youth group through my silly teenage years and I remember the leader seemed to read my mind when I was angry or sad and his big arm would give me a one arm hug and the cares of the world would go.

These days this guy would get the label as a child molester for caring. I'm not saying that we all need to hug other peoples kids in a physical way as it is not socially acceptable these days but we can give an ear to listen to kids.

Suicide is such a waste. I personally know of one guy who I worked with who went home and found his 17 yr old son gassed inside his car at home. Seemed the young man has too many debts and he was too embarrassed to ask dad for help. His dad lost a son, his job and eventually his wife through this. Made me think hard about my son and two daughters.

Mate, we all need each other. The taking of ones own life is never limited to any one age group. Just support each other as much as we can, through good times and bad.

Thanks for sharing this with us.

Barry