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Thank u all, glad to see we are not the only ones tackling this, I will read these all over and over again and see what I can use in the way of advice and try and sort something, hes home now talking to mum, we are pushing the idea of him living in the shed after we deck it out and line one end, give him his space and mum some sleep, we will see what eventuates, keep u all posted on the eventual outcome
That's what we did. Our son moved into the annexe beside the garage when he came back home. It didn't have a toilet nor shower so he'd come in for those but it gave him space for him and his mates.Quote:
Originally Posted by landyfromanuthaland
It was my old aeromodelling workshop so it was already lined.
He lived in there for a few years until his job took him to Orange.
The only problem was that I couldn't use the garage itself during all that time when he was home. The smell of cigarette smoke seeped through so I'd have to pack up what I was doing and go back into the house to get away from the smell.
I have a similar problem with the young bloke next door. When he lights up his marijuana, er, sorry, herbal cigarettes, the smell is so overpowering I can't stay out in the backyard, I have to go inside.
Ron
My mum did that when we moved back to Adelaide, she even put a washbasin and vanity unit in the wardrobe for me, when it was being put in, my aunt came over and asked why I needed one in my large bedroom, and mother simply said "to wash his hands after he's had a girl over" :eek::eek::eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by p38arover
Just ad to add that :)
Well the current stance is he is ok with the idea of the shed, I read him the riot act about what we expect, but he will be independent and if the trollop moves in she will also pay rent, its not free, turns out hes now smoking too, ah the impressionable teenagers!, his mate is a chippy and has offered to line the shed at no cost to us, so I get a nice room to reload my ammo and hide my beer when he moves out later on, mum is happier, she is in the angry stage now but it will pass
Glad to hear that its getting better mate, and he had no reason to treat his mum that way. Hope you sort it out soon.
Cheers Steve
P.S. if you need the plumbing done in the shed shoot me a PM
Great to hear hope it all works out in the long run:cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by landyfromanuthaland
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Originally Posted by p38arover
Yeah & eat something.........lol.:angel:
landyfromanuthaland Great to hear the lad & mum are talking & seems you have a good compramise for all!!!!!!!!!
Good to hear he came back. That's a blessing in itself.
Now you can continue teaching him life skills that should help him when he has kids :eek: :D.
Well i cant tell you what to do as i'm not a father.
But i did not see eye to eye with my dad when i was 15yo and i moved out.... i had a job, so it was time to be an adult in my eyes.
It worked out good as i lived in the same town, but with a mate.
it took a few years for my dad and i to see eye to eye.... I now love him dearly and he is the best dad a bloke could want. He taught me how to Drive and to have a passion for BMC cars.......
Give it time and if he does move out then respect it and keep in touch with him and help him,.....
Well the final say on this is he has decided agaisnt coming home, he thinks he can make at 16, mum is still very upset but is resigned to the fact to the fact he isnt coming home, I have bascially told him I wont have him upset or treat his mum like poo anymore, u have made your bed u will have to sleep in it, if later on u find it to difficult we will talk again and left it on that and said to stay in touch with his mum and be nice etc, I hope he makes ago of it, he can come home anytime but on my terms wether he likes it or not, so we will just see what eventuates, thank u all for your thoughts and advice I appreciate it.