Thread: How old is old enuff to leave home?

All I know is it would be hard to stay calm and level headed when on the receiving end of something like that...I'm dreading the day my girls grow up. Much easier to deal with a bit of lip from a 9yr old you can still send to bed.

And I suspect someone will come back very soon, unless they have somewhere else to lodge for free.

Ahh,,,,16 and already captured or is that captivated by the hairy lasoo

Originally Posted by landyfromanuthaland

We have been having some probs with our 16 year old boy who thinks he is ready to fly the coop, he kind of layed down the law and said this is how it will go, I immediately hoisted my flag right up the pole and the hole thing got heated and ended up in the front door being removed from its hinges after I jammed him through it closely followed by a roughly packed bag, the abuse his mother copped was what ****ed me off, he has a young tart hes carting around and I guess a child will be forthcoming as theres no pill or frangers being used, all this aside , who would do the same? did we handle it wrong? stuffed if I know, guess he will see its not all beer and skittles out there and come crawling home, or will he? All I know is I have a devastated wife who copped more abuse then a drunken ocker could dish out, the scotch came in handy!

Yes as in most kids what would the parents know , and the grass is always better on the other side of the fence

Mate teenages are very trying these days , And the goverment dont help

He could go and get a homeless child pension now which is more than the dole im led to beleive

It is all you can do , the same your parents did for you they didnt have a text book

Kids today are told of their rights which is good and bad

Your wife does not need or deserve the abuse

If it was my son it would be very hard for me not to hit him , I have been in the same situation before and i was lucky enough not to hit him , My step son and i talk about it now and he laugh,s about it and thanks me for not hitting him and is happy with the way i helped raise him

All the best and i hope it all works out in the long run

There is no manual to read and we all do the best we can.
Who can say what they would do in your situation.

I'm sure he feels bad about now too. Heated words and all that.

I have a 14yr old that I can stiil back hand but hes near 6 foot now and may soon back hand me..

But I left home at 16 and a lot of blokes I know and we all turned out OK I think.

So some how offer support and keep the door open(easy now its off the hinges) and maybe a phone call to say "you OK mate" just so he knows you care.

Hope it works out for ya..

Give it a day or two,then let him know how much he upset mum and why you reacted to it the way you did,good luck
Greg

We kicked our son out at 16. We told him that to live at home he had to live by our rules.

He moved back in after a year (he was skint) - and then lived by our rules without any more problems from him.

I also believe that anyone who is old enough to live with someone can find their own place to live.

There's no way I'd allow a child of mine to live in my house with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

I don't want the hassle nor do I want their kids living in my home.

Ron

Don't go to sleep on an argument.

Send him a text or get his mum to, so if he's feeling regrets he's got an excuse to call you.

Good luck.
Simon

geeezzzz...guess I am one of the new generation....

I completely moved out of home when I was 28

Mind you, my father realised when I was about 15 he no longer had the fear of god over me as I was big and ugly enough to thump back, but that never happened, mainly I guess as his father was violent with him in his youth and he wouldn't repeat it. I did respected my father, but then again I guess that was also as he was a very commanding figure. We fought a few times.

I did move out a few times in my late teens, but my mother begged me to come back as my father passed away.

Funny, my dad wanted my first few girlfriends to move in then again he liked them more than me

I guess the worst thing in restrospect was when I was about 20, and it hit me very hard I am a carbon copy of my dad in all respects. Scary......

Kicking your son out is probably what I would have done, but I guess its also a case of if he got stuck you would take him back in and give him a roof over his head.