What do we do?

Keep well clear of him Andy and Mrs andy, there is nothing good that could come of it, he is the one who has done WRONG so now he will have to live with his actions and if that means that he has no contact or onformation about his kids then so be it.

The kids are the most important people here, and they wont need anymore crap from their Dad.

hmmmmm bamboo under the fingernails comes to mind

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Originally Posted by mittadisco

1. Keep out of it as much as possible, except give all the support you can to the wife and children, as apropriate and in their time. Most likely best through your wife. Always be with your wife if they request you to visit even for the most basic thing. Never go alone to their house.
2. Yes - do not encourage communication with this fellow. Do not treat him as an enemy as such but as someone whom you do not want anything to do with. I see no problem in cutting any realtionship with him He has blown any kind of trust. (This may change with time if he becomes truly 'repentent' - but with a long time - and with evidence of true contrition and only if it causes no harm to wife and children. That may never occur again).
3. Keep in your mind that this type of person is liable to reoffend. If not his own children - maybe even nieces, nephews or grandchildren.
4. I hope the wife involved finds community or church or family support. She and her girls will need it.
3. Your wife must not become the conduit between him and his children. he has blown it.... if you have caller id on your phone use it and don't answer his calls.

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I have to agree with the above.

We don't understand why these things happen but I would not agree to be a go between.

Trained and experienced counselling would be my suggestion.

And also we cannot just shoot these types but as a society we should try to 'reprogramme' these guys somehow.

:twisted::twisted::twisted:send him my way:twisted::twisted::twisted::twisted:
Sith is a "boner" by trade and I have a 44gal drum already..

Those kids will be ****ed over for their whole lives while he'll get 10yrs out in 5yrs...all because of the do gooders:twisted::twisted:

Ultimate crime deserves the D.Penalty:twisted:

Thanks for the info guys, I guess we are on the same wavelength with this the mongrel, I dont want him on my lawn or I should say dirt at the moment, in my street or anywhere near us or other peoples kids, the Police said he was reported many years ago before his marriage to niki for fiddling with his then wifes sisters daughter, so he not new to this.

We can only support niki as far as she will want to be supported my wife and her have been friends since they were littlies, shes quiet angry at the moment, one minute your telling someone how much you love them, the next you want to see them dead.

I dont know, its a strange world and getting stranger by the minute , you just have no idea who is living next to you these days.

I don't understand rockspiders!

We have a responsibility to protect the young!

In this case, I think that he should be treated as guilty until proven innocent! Therefore, NO CONTACT!

Get the wife to seek counciling and support from a professional.

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:twisted::twisted::twisted:send him my way:twisted::twisted::twisted::twisted:
Sith is a "boner" by trade and I have a 44gal drum already..

Those kids will be ****ed over for their whole lives while he'll get 10yrs out in 5yrs...all because of the do gooders:twisted::twisted:

Ultimate crime deserves the D.Penalty:twisted:

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why do you need the boner?

fill the drum with hydrofluric acid and dangle him in feet first...

or take him somewhere thats 2 days walk from anywhere and dose him with hypos of aircraft hydraulic oil

Theres a much easier way guys, we bag and gag him, drive to Ceduna in South Oz, hire a boat, chum up some big Great Whites and over he goes, knowone would ever know!,

My wife is a very strong person in the mind department, shes been through hell and back and is doing her best to handle Niki in a sensitive way, we already are observing shes not eating, she looks gaunt and run down from non stop crying, what the hell do you do, just being there and lending the shoulder is about it at the moment.

We can only watch and keep an eye on things, this sort of thing really ruffles my feathers in a big way, yes he must be proven guilty but thats merely a technicality, we know he did it, he knows he did it, I fail to understand why they do it? what drives them ? specially there own flesh and blood, could you rehabilitate these types? personally I doubt it.

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.... I fail to understand why they do it? what drives them ? specially there own flesh and blood, could you rehabilitate these types? personally I doubt it.

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It's a very sad sad time for everyone, It seems that something is missing in these people and they get confused about proper parental nurturing "love" and the sexual kind.

We have come beyond the animalistic instinct to procreate, yet for some they can't help but lapse back to their base nature.

I don't think we have knowledge or the resources to rehabilitate these people so that they stop offending. But being a bleeding heart I also don't agree with vigilantism. Paedophiles do not have an easy time in prison. Lets leave it at that and hope his stay is long.

Diana