Thread: Geez am I banana annoyed

Well today I remained in a calm mood, child wasnt here surprise surprise!, the starter motor dissappeared today, the module inthe dizzy fell out to, he can get all the clever dicky mates he can they wont get it going in a blue fit, wife rang the boy and said well what you got to say, he got nothing to say and hung up, kind of expected that ,how he handles things, just yell abuse and run off. Back to square one again and try again I guess.

IMHO and showing massive faith in the positive affermation thing, but what if, you took the offending vehicle to him and took him out to the back and beyond and......

Then, showed him how handbrake turns go, braking distances (skids), doughnuts and all the stuff he'll need to know if the in-insured, un-licenced un-everything situation goes pear shaped on him.

Some slight chance he'll like it, thank you and realise when a cars out of shape your basically buggered!

Did the same with my older bro' (I learnt early) he's always said it taught him more about respect for a car than any of the 4o lessons.

Bold move, but whats to loose.

Know one learns by skidding once into a semi.

I'd reckon the shock of your change in attitude would do wonders.

Big Fat Pologeeees if I stepped on sommint here

I didnt want to teach any of my kids to drive myself, I made him go through a learning school, with an emphasis on defensive driving, I didnt want them picking up my bad habits, plus I am also shocking passenger and I mean really shocking, I dont even like my wife driving me around, I am funny about this for some reason, I trust my own experience, my own reactions etc, goes back to my one and only accident as a young driver, seen the dont overtake turning vehicle sticker on trucks?, well I had slowed to turn right with blinker on and this crazy nut overtook as I started to turn and he T boned me big time, the car spun around and **** ended into a ditch after takingout some poor cockys fence and we landed on our side, luckily no injuries but had fun getting out, that car was an XB Ford and was in showroom condition, only 6 years old at the time, i still miss the car and think about it quiet often,
I reckon they are better to learn by a professional and do some further training later for defensive driving etc

All fair points....

But the other factor is the shock of you assisting/helping/sharing in his extreem behavoir (to us older folk anyway). When I say go so back and beyond, I mean some deserted industrial estate with no public traffic or a paddock somewhere at 8am Sunday morning.

Then you can sit with him and let him trash the vehicles tyres and running gear if necessary. Nothing dangerous. I wont push this any more you've been patient.

I would like to hope my kids wouldnt be idiots in the car but who am I trying to kid, once he gets his Ps and fills the thing with his dead head mates nd they go cruisin for the first time? well I know he is going to thrash the CV joints out real fast, Laser running gear is quiet strong and will take a hammering, he will give into peer pressure and this is when stupidity comes into play and thats that, weve all seen it over and over again, I have forced the issue until I am blue in the face about not abusing the priveledge of a licence and that a car can and is a deadly weapon, but I spose he has to learn for himself.

Originally Posted by graceysdad

At home I have this old bubble back ford laser I have been slowly fixing for my middle boy, today the little %@$#$ took the thing for a drive to his mates place, the idea itself was fine but he has no licence, the car has no rego or insurance, I totally blew my fuse and I am still glowing red with anger so I am venting some steam here, I cant for the life of me make this 16 year old @$#@#@ realise what he did was plain wrong, he cant fathom the idea that I am majorly @^#%$ at his ignorance and lack of common sense, I got the old didnt I make stuff ups as a teenager, well I did but I paid for them dearly with my old man being the iron fisted old thing he was and is, we have trouble with this boy on a regular bases, he joydrove our AU when we were away and wrecked the backend trying to drift in inverted commas, left school uneducated, left home and lives with skank and her even skankier mother, comes home 3 mornings a week to deposit washing and scoff as much cornflakes as he can, I just cant see what I need to do with him now, the effect this sort of thing has on my atrial flutter is really unwanted, friggin kids Arrrghhhhh!, someone tell me I am not the only one who has these dramas with teenagers, I cant get over thinking what if he had killed someone, yes the keys were hidden, dont know how he got it going but it needs a new ignition now I put the axe through it in a bout of anger earlier, it wont go anywhere anytime soon!, mind you you dont have to be a rocket scientist to get an old laser going, most stolen car in the world

yeah, mate.....been there....got six kids (that was BEFORE we got the telly....they stopped after that, ha ha)...four girls, two boys....the girls have been great...the boy's ?....well,.... what can i say....i know what y' going thru'....my boys have been ALMOST as stupid as i was, at the same age....my dad's solution with me ?....tough love...."you obviously don't like it here son, you think your mum and i are idiots '?...." well son, move out, don't come back with your washing for your mum to do....and don't eat my food, either ".....i did the same with my unruly, obstinate, pig-headed sons, no free rides, no free food, no free cars, etc. yeah, it was hard and they went thru' some tough times, but ten years down the tracks and they're different people....yeah, like us, they DO eventually grow up ( well, mostly....)....yes, it's hard to do when you love ém and see them going wrong, but the more you do for them, the weaker they perceive you to be....they don't see your love for what it is...but as weakness, so you get no respect and your car nicked. i may be out of line here, tell him you love him, but your not going to put up with his rubbish and to shoot thru' and don't come back until he can show you RESPECT.....all i can say is it worked ON me, and FOR me.......

Well Zenn I hear you in every way, I would dearly love to send the little gremlin packing , this is where mum and I differ and thats the problem.

I'm still wondering about the banana.