Originally Posted by
vnx205
I presume that those of you who are automatically blaming the parents have never seen a mother weeping as she admits that she can't stop her primary school age son from doing as he pleases.
The reason she can't control him is that every time she tells him to stop, he hits her.
I have seen that myself and have heard from reliable sources of other instances of similar cases of parents who live in fear of their children.
Not all of those children use physical violence to intimidate their parents. Others use psychological techniques that are just as effective.
While it might be possible to argue that they brought it on themselves by not bringing up their children correctly when they were younger, punishing those parents now won't achieve anything.
On the subject of bringing up children, it is a concern if some people really believe that it consists exclusively of belting the kids every time they step out of line.
The new series of ads aimed at telling parents that their drinking habits are an important factor influencing the kids' attitude towards binge drinking serves as a reminder that our example is an important part of raising children.
Appropriate discipline has a part to play, but there is more to bringing up children than that.
Parent do have a responsibility to do what they can to ensure that the children they produce make a positive contribution to society, but that does not mean that they should be punished every time they fail.
For many of them the disappointment of seeing their children turn out badly is a greater punishment than many of us could imagine.
Some of the parents who fail have brought it on themselves. Some have simply been overwhelmed by forces they were not equipped to cope with.