Thread: The dummy?

Every baby is different & you just do what works best for you.

If the dummy works, great .


Mrs Scouse was upset that breast feeding wasn't working out & copped some grief from the Breastfeeding association which made matters worse. In the end, we had to do what worked for us - in our case, bottles worked fine.

Support your wife... your daughter will be fine.

My son was a screamer for three months and nothing would console him...not even a dummy... that was until he found his thumb one night. From that night on he slept like a lamb.

Thumb, dummy...who cares ..they will grow out of both later in life.

Don't let it get to you guys, sleep deprivation can make all sorts of situations seem worse. Dummys are a perfectly normal and useful 'tool' for chid rearing, both of ours used them in between breast and bottle feeding as a 'change' or at a time when either of the other options wasn't available at a moments notice.

ABOVE ALL, don't feel 'not a successful parent' for using a dummy or any other device to help you settle or 'pacify' a child, it isn't constructive.

Again, sleep deprivation is a serious contributor to stress and anxiety, so don't think it is 'your fault', you are NOT yourself in these circumstances.

I once spent literally 3 months with little and interupted sleep when our youngest had colic, neverending writhing screaming baby, walking up and down in a 17ft caravan in the wee hours and then going to work While I was at work, the other half dealt with it during the day AND our 4 year old in a caravan park. Wife says she has blocked out those months and doesn't remember any of it

Anyway, enough of my rambling, I say anything that helps you two get sleep so you can function as normal humans the next day then try it!

Big hugs for the better half from us

JC etc

IMHO a successful parent is one who has raised their children to adulthood and those young adults treat others fair and with respect, its not what the young adults have achieved in life to that point, its about how they treat their fellow human beings. Every thing between the baby and young adult is about the end result and the most harmonious way of getting there. Do what feels right at the time, if it dosnt work, try something else. I myself had trouble dealing with the early months of our kids (had/have a great wife and wonderful mother to the kids), but when they turned into little humans (about 6months), loved every minute of being a parent.
cheers
blaze

if the wife is breast feeding maybe bubs aint getting enough milk

my wife had this problem,then we switched to bottles and all was fine

all of our 4 kids had dummy's

you got it way off the mark its 9 months prior to getting born bumping around in a land rover then when you get born all that is familiar gets taken away from you .....i think i would be cross at that too!!
You can't just go cold turkey on Land Rovers like that ask the community nurse in your area if they have a land rover simulator available!!

On a serious note support your missus best you can and make sure this little stumbling block doesn't leave her feeling inadequate or depressed, there are books but all kids are individuals and have their own quirks.....just like Land Rover ownership you have to work out what works for you....good luck

How old is Emma?

With most things there is no wrong, unless you do something simply because of pressure from others as they 'consider' it the right thing to do. Try to tell your wife not to get upset. Every bub is different. If it makes Emma happy to have the dummy, then let her have it.

If it is pressure not to use a dummy from those who appoint themselves as the deciders on these matters do not concern yourself.

Advice from a dentist is that a dummy if correctly shaped it will do no harm to the mouth which is still developing. A thumb has the potential (potential not saying will) to do so resulting in extra dentist fees to correct the teeth later in life.

Also is relatively easy to stop a dummy a thumb not so as it is always there. You prepare the child that the dummy(s) is going in advance so they can come to grips with it then send them somewhere they will appreciate. We had a letter from Santas Clause who was looking for dummies for his baby reindeers. Santa then left a thank you letter with picture which was a treasured possession for some time.

Have a cousin whose party trick is to drink straight from the tobasco sauce bottle. Can do this as parents as a last resort used the hot sauce on the thumb as adversion therapy. Did not work but she has won many bets over the years.