Sorry Scott, but the answer to both is that it's not normal.
I do not feel anything from the seat itself when going over a bump. That said, I have electric seats and I don't know whether yours are too so it might be different.
The tailgate top sometimes doesn't latch on the first attempt but I wouldn't say I have to slam it shut. I only need to raise it a little bit to shut it again.
Martin
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