Thanks for all the useful comments.
RE: the TowPro
the installation was done as per Sniegy's guidance with the exception of installing a diode. However I see in the instructions the following
"On the new vehicles there is no 2nd fuse box in the rear nor the need for the Diode."
So I think that means the lack of a diode is OK in my case.
RE: the Tow Module
I'm going to try and just put a couple of resistors in line with the indicators in an attempt to get it working so I can at least get my trailer registered and go camping ! Then figure out the best way to resolve the tow module problem with a bit of time. I'm still not convinced that this module isn't meant to fix all these woes. I appreciate the website refers to "the vehicle's ECU will not detect the module" but my understanding is that it does interact so that the car's systems will know you have a trailer in tow....
Just a question that I posed in part before. I've seen instructional video's online about "Tow Assist" which takes you through a bunch of Q&A to set up a variety of trailer types depending on what you have hooked up. (Involves stickers with dots and putting in dimensions of trailer etc).
I presume my vehicle doesn't have this if it's not in the Instruction Manual. I understand it should do "Towing Stability" automatically (not needing the trailer hitch signal). I presume to stop the reversing signal beep it takes it's cue from having the electrical load (normally).

