I don't get it ...
Replace the nuts, they are obviously screwed....simple!
For years I used the LR wrench ... including numerous wheel changes to the GOE 18"s....no issue!
I then bought a 6 sided, 4 way combination wrench from an auto-barn type store ... colour coded the 22 end.....no issue.
I'm relatively strong but not a big bloke and I just incrementally cross-torque when doing the nuts up, until firm....two D4s since 2010 .... no issue. Nuts are always relatively easy to get off and have never been unduly tight nor loose. LR or the 4 way fits every time, so I've obviously never compromised the nut.
I do clean and grease the studs with a high quality grease every time I change the wheels. I do also clean and grease the interface between the wheel and the car side.

