Keep an eye on the rear axle load
	
	
		Hi,
It is a challenging topic and one that the manual and supplements and published specifications for the D4 don’t really make crystal clear. I looked into this too, to try to make sure that if I loaded the D4 and Van that it would be within limits. What I came to might be some help.
It seems to me that the critical limit when considering towing with the D4 is not so much the GVM as the rear axle capacity. The maximum rear axle capacity for the D4 is 1855kg. When considering the mass on the rear axle the tow ball load must be considered. It is important to realise that because the tow ball hangs off the back, the load on the rear axle to be included is greater than the actual weight. Typically, the load share carried by the rear axle is 1.5 times the weight of the ball (it can vary).
If you have 280kg of ball weight, then the extra load carried by the rear axle is probably 420kg. If you have a lightly laden D4, with some fuel and a couple of people, let’s say that is 2,800kg. Add 420kg and you end up with about 1820kg on the rear axle.  You can’t really go much more in the back (35kg) without over-loading the rear axle capacity.
It seems to me that the numbers that the OP came up with look about right. It is hard not to overload the rear axle, depending on how much extra stuff is on/in the car with a large van. The LR supplement suggests that a target tow ball mass of about 7% is the suggested minimum. I agree having looked at the limits on the rear axle. Lighter ball load is better. And in light of the GVM reduction that the OP noted for >250kg ball weight, a ball weight of 250kg would seem to be a good target. Oh and 7% of 3,500kg is 245kg.
Just one of many views on this.