I guess the solution to all this is to use the SIII pressure plate with the SIII throw out and the SIIa 3 finger type on the SIIa.
However I seem to remember that the difference between the 3 finger type and the diaphragm type is not anything to do with spacers but that the diaphragm type is for a 9 1/2" pressure plate while the 3 fingers are for the 8" (or 9" no books at work) and the spacing for the throw-out sleeve is the same whatever pressure plate and throw-out you use.
Diana

