I have had to make a dreadful decision

[olbod]

My wife Betty has been ill for a long time now and I have had to put things on hold while I nursed her.
I have been happy to do this because we have been Mates now for fifty one years.

Eight weeks ago she was admitted to hospital as her heart and lungs were
having big problems.
There was nothing that could be done to affect any sort of cure.
Slowly she has been experiencing more and more discomfort, tho not
actual pain. She kept asking to be taken off her back but no position she
was moved into helped.
On Monday she broke down and begged me to make it stop.
We discussed together our options and settled on a course of action.
Yesterday morning we had a meeting with the Doctors and I made the decision.
We have now stopped all treatment and medication and she was sedated last night and placed on a morphine drip.
When I left her last night I had to behave normally Knowing that it was likely to be the last time I would be able to talk with her. Leaving was I think, the hardest thng I have ever had to do
She was still a little aware this morning and gave me a big smile, that
cheered me up alot I can tell you
I am expecting the call from the hospital at any time now.

I am disapointed that she didn't stay healthy and live another ten years
or so but I am not sad that her suffering will soon be over.
Not an easy decision to make. Yesterday I felt as though I was holding her hand while leading her up the steps to the gallows.

Sorry to burden you with this sort of thing but I had to say something to someone.

Robert.

[JDNSW]

You have my sympathy - I have been there pretty much. Almost eleven years ago my wife spent her last month in hospital, waiting for a lung transplant that never came. I spent the last night by her side.

John

[Psimpson7]

I am very sorry to read that Robert, It's very sad. I wish you all the best.

Rgds
Peter

[bblaze]

Thats a tough call to make, how to say the right thing at a time like this. Dont think there is a right thing to say. Hang in there and take care of your self and share your grief with those close to you. Remember all the good times.
blaze

[d@rk51d3]

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through.

It sounds as if she has some comfort and relief at least. Sometimes you can't ask for more. Our thoughts will be with you both during this difficult time.

[Chops]

Hi Robert,,
I went through a very similar thing with my mother not so long ago,, I feel your pain and anguish. I wish you all the best.
Chops

[Rangier Rover]

So sorry for you, brings tears hearing this sort of thing, so unfair. You have done your best and takes a strong person to make a decision as you have. May peace be with your wife.

Tony

[one_iota]

Hang in there Robert.

The hardest decisions to take are often the best.

The quality of her life while she is here is paramount.

[Tote]

My thoughts are with you, good people make decisions that are best for those that they love.

Regards,
Tote

[MacMan]

Hi Robert.

It's good that it was a discussion you had together. As hard as it is, you're doing what is right.

My thoughts are with you both.