G`day ,
if you don`t tighten the clamps down until after the manifold bolts are started in their holes the gasket can move into position .
The clamp bolts can still be got to with the manifold torqued down .
The slot rather than hole in the right had side of the manifold is a good start point .
If you only start all the bolts 2 or 3 threads the manifold can be lifted not much though .
As you found you can put a certain amount of force on the gasket then it buckles .
If you have the rocker covers still fitted while doing this make sure the manifold is not coming into contact .
I have some heads that have been machined only on the head face and have had to remove metal from an inlet manifold to get it to sit down in between the heads this required trimming the inlet gasket and matching the ports to the gasket to get it right . main problem is you really only know if you get it right when you next have it apart .
Forgot to mention you should be able to start the bolts with little effort and only putting them in a little the angle of entry can be compared .

