Thread: Embarrassment

Karen is probabley confused about her role and feelings, she still has feelings for you (despite saying not) or she wouldn't feel bad. Your relationship will change, but that doesn't mean it will be bad or fall apart. Keep talking to her, find out what she wants you to do and not to do. She will never be useless, there are some things that that you will never do better than her. The kids are growing up, and Karen's not needed to be the nuturing mummy she's used to being. Horemones change as we get older too, just to make things interesting. The dynamics of your relationship and situation are changing, communication, tolerence and patiense is the key.

OK again tell me why i shouldn't be worried about Karen going back to the tattoo shop ..She went out today to take some shorts of mine back & stoped back at Cardiff to get some ham for lunch,
& guees where the only park was,Yep right out side the tattoo shop & guess who was working & out the front yep her tattooist ..
She said G'day & went on her way to woollies but when she came home has said yes there are some feelings for him & no feelings for me,& she doesn't think we are worth fighting for & she know she can't have the tattooist as he is married & does not have any feelings for her.
I want to say to her don't go near the tattoo shop & DON'T go near the tattooist but i can't do that to her. & Karen has said thats what she needs to do.....
I am trying & i will always will try as Karen meens the world to me & we have 23 years together with all that history..
He has changed her feelings for me after 23 years in such a short time a matter of hours .
I have been trying for 2 weeks & i don't expect that will be enough But it hasn't changed Karens feelings towards me after 23 years even Karen said that should say something....

Karen keeps telling me its to late & that i should hate her for it but i don't as i know how much crap i have put her through in the past & i probably deserve this ...

WHAT THE **** DO I DO ?

I am so frightend at the moment. i even asked if she wanted to go away for a few days ,She says no because i probably wont like her answer when she comes back..

Karens says there are no feeling there for me & there is no physical feelings towards me anymore & says she doesn't know if she wants me or loves me or if any of it will come back..
But if she keeps seeing or running into the tattooist this is whats going to happen she will keep her feelings for him.. She went & sat with him on tuesday for a few hours while she got her tattoo on her other boob & came home & said there where no feelings for him BUT after running into him for a few mins today she says they are still there she thinks...
I can not cheer her up in anyway ....

HELP ME

if you have Karens number give her a text that mite cheer her up although she says she doesn't want to talk to anyone i don't even think she wants to talk to me anymore as i seem to make it worse for her..

WHAT THE HELL HAVE I DONE TO THIS BEAUTIFUL WOMAN & WHAT AM I DOING SO WRONG ?

I have asked Karen to post as she can tell it from her side better than i could & she said she would later.....

SO FRIGHTEND.

Karen meens so much to me & i want to make her so happy & proud of me but everything i do seems wrong . . . All i want is for Karen to be happy...

Originally Posted by banjo

WHAT THE HELL HAVE I DONE TO THIS BEAUTIFUL WOMAN & WHAT AM I DOING SO WRONG ?

Tomorrow it is 8 months since you put the first post up. 8 months.

The last 2 weeks you've been running around like a blue a** fly - but that didn't start in Feb - it took a while.

Rome wasn't built in a day but it came tumbling down pretty quick - just like Karen has.

As I said - Love is an intelligent willingness to do what is righ for Karen so love her and give her space, time and keep talking with her about the things she wants you to do.

And keep letting us know how you feel too - that's also important.

Originally Posted by Stuuu

Tomorrow it is 8 months since you put the first post up. 8 months.

The last 2 weeks you've been running around like a blue a** fly - but that didn't start in Feb - it took a while.

Rome wasn't built in a day but it came tumbling down pretty quick - just like Karen has.

As I said - Love is an intelligent willingness to do what is righ for Karen so love her and give her space, time and keep talking with her about the things she wants you to do.

And keep letting us know how you feel too - that's also important.

I feel like **** as i am the one who has caused Karen so much hurt & brought her to where she is now . I ONLY HAVE MYSELF TO BLAME..

Originally Posted by banjo

I feel like **** as i am the one who has caused Karen so much hurt & brought her to where she is now . I ONLY HAVE MYSELF TO BLAME..

Maybe - but you are also the one to take the bull by the horns and do the things that will help turn it all around.

Take time, give her space and keep asking what things she would like you to help out with.

Remember it was 8 months for you to be able to do what you did in the last 2 weeks so as much as you want it to be back to normal tomorrow, it will take time.

Your Landy is fine again - but did you fix that overnight????? Hang in there.

Well now Karen doesn't want me to work at it anymore .says she doesn't want to be in a marrige with no sex or feelings or stuff cant remember what i was going to write..

Karen is very depressed at the moment & i think its having an efect with her....

I know i want to work it out & i want to work at everything i'm doing I want to be able to do more for Karen ,She doesn't want to put me through this but i think differant...& i recon we can work through it & get it sorted........

Karen needs someone to talk to besides me . . . . .

Karen thinks she is a dryed out old woman. & she feels so tiered . .. . ....

Now i know differant there . . . . . .
Run down yes but not dryed out at all......