It's only a problem if you allow it to be a problem. You have the power - you're in charge, no-one else, only you.
ForumSage
Subscriberi cant even remember where killingworth isnt it out the back of barnsley somewhere , if so i will have to start to have some dry runs now just to get there..Originally Posted by Ausfree
Well then, drop them off and then go home, then go back and pick them up!!!!!
1969 LWB S2a yellow, gone
1972 LWB S2a 5 DOOR wagon coming & GONE
1973 LWB S3 green Sadly GONE
1977 LWB S3 tabletop building
1992 disco BOINGY BOINGY
My landrover doesn't leak oil , IT SWEATS POWER
JASON & KAREN
TopicToaster
That's better - be positive.
I think I have said it before - give Karen time and space. You want her to change or get better or whatever TOMORROW but it will take a while.
Be positive about yourself and let the rest take care of itself.
Cheers, Dale
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YarnMaster
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... so KEEP GOING ... it's a BBQ. Not a formal function. Dress casually, wear a baseball cap & sunnies if need be, but go!
You don't know them ... it's easier that way. You don't have to be the life of the party ... mingle a little, or not. But turn up!
... and don't say you can't. YOU CAN! If this is what you're telling us Karen needs, then mate, it's time to step up to the plate. No excuses. Step up, take a swing and give it 110% if this function is that important ... get Cody & Karen there, hang out with them, and get them home ... and if it all ends up being a 1/2 rsed pear shaped fiasco, at least you did it! The next time will be a little easier, and will go a little better ...
You've got to become someone Karen WANTS to be with. You can't convince her with words, you have to become THAT person. You have to lead out.
I'm pushing mate. You told us too, and at this point in the proceedings I reckon it's time to push and to give you a rocket !!
Get on with it !
Kev..
Kev..
Going ... going ... almost gone ... GONE !! ... 2004 D2a Td5 Auto "Classic Country" Vienna Green
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Fluids, that was good advice and well put. Jason, I'm 100% with Fluids on his advice. You're already on the way to being that man starting with your stay in the doc' waiting room, of which we are all so proud of you. You can do this, just go to the party and chill out. Who cares what other people think? They're probably not thinking anything anyway, so just go and enjoy your time. Talking of limits; everytime someone fails at something it's because they've pushed themselves past their limits. The harder you fall, the more experience you've gained and the better you will become. YOU CAN DO IT; we know you can and I believe in your heart, you know you can.
Why do you care what other people at that party might think Banjo? Their opinions mean nothing to you. Ignore them.
The only ones at that party whose opinions really matter to you are Karen and your son.
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Stop hanging around here mate and start the dry runs, Look at how much you have improved/achieved since starting this (biggest on AULRO) thread. Did you ever think you could have done half of it, a year ago? The defence rests M'Lord.
If you don't like trucks, stop buying stuff.
ForumSage
SubscriberYeah i know but i have to think of Karen & Cody if i was to go Cody would be worried ..But Karen would hate me for it as she wouldn't do anything but worry & stress that i was ok & Karen is the only person i can't hide it from..........when i have done things like this in the past mainly family crap Karen is so stressed & uptite she doesn't enjoy her self at all because she is always so worried that i am ok & not getting panicy as it is embarracing for her aswell to a degree..I used to go to Cody's soccer presintation days cause they where at the feild & Karen & i just sat by ourselves & then went & took Cody on the rides they used to put on, Vickie even came with us once .
Its time i grew some nuts for this woman she deserves so much in life ..that i could only wish to be able to do for her ......
I have sumed it up perfectly as to what i have done to Karen ..
I have ruined Karen completly & ****ed up two perfect kids to the point one has nervous attacks & is still struggling....
I have wasted 23 years of Karens life & ruined her so bad to the point everytime she does go out she just worries so much about me being at home on my own she ends up coming home early & doesn't enjoy herself at all anywhere....
Guys i'm not being negative i'm trying to be realistic . Karen is telling me not to push myself so hard cause the fall will be to big & i will hurt her even more .
I want so much more for Karen & the kids ......
1969 LWB S2a yellow, gone
1972 LWB S2a 5 DOOR wagon coming & GONE
1973 LWB S3 green Sadly GONE
1977 LWB S3 tabletop building
1992 disco BOINGY BOINGY
My landrover doesn't leak oil , IT SWEATS POWER
JASON & KAREN
TopicToaster
Hey Banjo
Crying in your beer dilutes it.
Super Moderator
Jason, go back and look at the phrases that I have highlighted in bold.........are they the actions of some one who has no feelings for you?
Now consider the red parts..........relisticly Karen is exhausted from carrying the whole family, dealing with your problems (and slackness), the kids testing the boundaries, hormonal changes, struggling on limited income etc., etc., etc.. Which one was the straw that broke the camel's back? Take any one or two away and she probabley would have coped. What's done is done, move on and fix it. In LR parlance, "Bugger, I wish I hadn't pushed it to breaking point; now I have to fix it.". You wouldn't walk away from a Series just because some one said it's too hard to change the springs, would you?
Karen's feeling mixed up and tired. Another bloke has caught her eye at a time when she is totally frazzed, he looks attractive, fault free rah rah rah. Again, in LR parlance, when your rolling round in six inches of sloppy mud on a cold wet night, trying to repair your Series so you can get your family home, a passing Rav 4 looks mighty attractive. Down the track, after the Landy's fixed, the sun's shining brightly, you've had a shower and the family are happy, which is the car you want, not the Tojo.
Some guy has turned Karen's head because he seems to be a Rav 4, she is surprise and confused by her feelings, and beating herself up over it. Keep plugging away Jason, you can do it.
If you don't like trucks, stop buying stuff.
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