Thread: Embarrassment

Originally Posted by WhiteD3

Jason,

I read your post and understand your situation; my heart goes out to you and Karen.

My wife has had agoraphobia for 25 years. While its severity changes over time, depending on what's happening in our lives, its always there. Right now we can travel reasonably easy around the suburb but anything beyond that is a major exercise involving mental preparation and planning, and Xanax.

Going somewhere and having to turn around, lying to people about the reasons for not going to parties and functions, making excuses, not being able to maintain friendships (Bit hard to invite people over if you can reciprocate right?), yep been there done that, still there now. The people thing is most difficult aspect I think; if you're a good liar like me, people eventual think you're either antisocial or just plain don't like them, so they stop contacting you, when in reality the opposite is true. Even good friends lose patience or interest after a while.

I could write more but that'll only depress you and me even more, so hang in there is all I can say.

Mark

I'm just starting to redo that & i'm enjoying it sofar with not to much panicy..

Originally Posted by banjo

Gees i haven't seen any of those for awhile..
we would love that here but we don't have a stereo anymore the last house claimed it cause of the old wireing through the house..

I recently bought a turntable from Aldi which plugs into my 5.1 sound system which means I can play my old albums, I have quite a collection. Its great to hear some of the old songs again!!!

Well been leaving Karen alone didn't even wake her today she got up on her own had a shower i was doing the washing , when i did that & finished i grabed me book & went & sat up near the car in the sun to read , after a while Karen came out as she was sitting out the front in the sun & now has gone for a drive to get out of here for awhile she said , but she left her gym papers here & said we would go down when she gets back.....So yeah i leaving her alone & she buggered off....

Jim, I have a turntable here that connects via USB. so I can save the vinyl onto CD, itunes etc..

Originally Posted by V8Ian

Jim, I have a turntable here that connects via USB. so I can save the vinyl onto CD, itunes etc..

Yeah Ian, mine has the USB port also, when I get some time I will download music onto CD!!!!

Originally Posted by banjo

Well been leaving Karen alone didn't even wake her today she got up on her own had a shower i was doing the washing , when i did that & finished i grabed me book & went & sat up near the car in the sun to read , after a while Karen came out as she was sitting out the front in the sun & now has gone for a drive to get out of here for awhile she said , but she left her gym papers here & said we would go down when she gets back.....So yeah i leaving her alone & she buggered off....

What a great idea, Banjo, as somebody said earlier on this Thread (I think it was Ian) "you can't undo 23 years worth of damage in a week". Also in the words of the great DR PHIL, "if she ain't happy, ain't nobody happy"!!! Just give her space, keep out of her face, but be there if she needs you and only IF SHE NEEDS YOU!!!

Well Banj, back from the Pub, worlds problems solved having some lunch and then I will wash the Freelander!!!!

Karen ended up going down to the lake to read for awhile went to go for a walk but got to tired so came home .Then we went down to the gym so she could put her forms in . .She has to go down there saturday at 10.30 for orientation & emergancy proceedures & one of the staff will show her around the equitment & she get her swip card to get in as its one of those 24hr places..

Then we went for a drive over to wallsend to fill in time to get lunch & ended up just coming home..
Karen is asleep on the lounge now & i will get her up for tea...