Thread: Embarrassment

Originally Posted by The ho har's

Hi guys

Harry will be out of Hospital tomorrow. He has been there for 14 days after a 9hr surgery. Not sure what else to say..

Mrs hh

9 hours!!!! Crikey!! Yep, best wishes for a speedy recovery for Harry. Keep us up to date Carolyn!!!

harry is home.. he is well in spirits. For those didn't know Harry DID have bowel cancer. all removed and dealing with the post operative resalts.

Aus he is doing well but the bag is a wake up, but dealing with it.

Mrs hh

Thanks for the update, Carolyn. Yeah I had the bag for nearly 4 months, glad to see the end of it actually.

Originally Posted by banjo

Oh dear i think this is going to hurt...Where to start
Well i have been on a pension for a few years now because i have AGROPHOBIA servere panic disorder.i have trouble going out to the point where i have locked myself in the bathroom in colds sweats with my heart in my throat thinking i would passout or pee or crap myself..i also have done this when i have had people coming over to visit or in this case (people offering to come & help )..it has ruined my life & my immediate family (wife & kids)..you know we used to go up to our local bush (hillsborough ) when we had a nissan SWB kids loved it but it sometimes could take me an hour to get there & we only live literaly 5 min drive from it..
its been realy hard for us because our families think its a big joke .they seem to think its funny to take the micky out of me ..but 27 years of abuse mentaly,physically,mentaly sexualy..
So i dont deal with people to well cause if i have to leave or (hide)as such they dont understand so we just dont do it but its now realy taking its toll on the wife & kids..
we had to file bankrupt a few years back now & the way this rover is going it could send us there again..wife (karen is realy worried )
i had a friend who i used to do stuff with because he didnt care that if we where going some where if i needed to turn round & head for home he didnt say anything i would just settle myself down & then turnround again & keep going & catch up to him & this could happen a few times before i got there & sometime i couldnt get there but he was ok with it so we got on real good but he went & died on me & i have taken it hard & since then i havent been able to do anything realy & we used to go bush alot just for the day out to sugarloaf & out the back of glendale & up hillsborough man i miss those days we all had fun me the kids & wife plus my friend..we used to work for ourselves i am a diesel mechanic by trade havent touched tools since i done my trade 20 years ago but we used to wash & grease trucks that kept us going was good money cause we used to do about 20 trucks a week..
Now the best i do is going down to the local shops again 5min drive away but i do go for a walk round aldi the cheap shops & the paper shop gotta get me rover mags..but this rarely happens .karen does all my running around picking up parts & the like..
i seem to get on better with woman the shrink says its because most of the abuse i suffered was from my father..
hence the reason we only see a few family members ..
we thought it bout time i told use as we have had offers of help with the car..
dont know how i would handle it..but if it wasnt for karen i know i would be dead she saved me..
the best thing so far is my kids..
& i have to say i have never found so many people to offer to help when they havent even met us ..thats cool.
i can only hope that when the car is sorted i can get some part of our life back & start going back to the bush...
So we would like to say many many thanks to everyone who has offered to help...
Not trying to be sobby just thought if use new the problem it mite make it easier to understand why i cant except the offers of help but i (we) really appreciate them i dont know how i would handle people here for the time it could take...
THANKS Jason & Karen..

Im chiming in on this one really late.
I feel for ya man, i really do.
We both are in similar situations or so it seems.
Im about the same age, had similar problems growing up. (abuse)
Did my trade but as i got older **** changed. What happened to me when i was young started to take over my life much like yours.
Went to heaps of docs, ended up diagnosed with Bipolar, PTSD and Acute personality disorder.
Got put on meds, which over time destroyed me! Thought i was going to die every minute of every day for over a year. Anxiety was so bad i would just leave the house and my heart would bounce out of my chest.
Which was weird as i was never like that. I love adrenaline rushes normally! Never been afraid of anything.
Destroyed my career totally and forced onto pension.
Been on it for a few years now.

The reason i replied to this thread is first to offer my sympathy as its tough man, but also what happened to me up till now.

One day i was at the docs who i had been going to for many years.
He chatted with me for a while when i noticed the feeling i was going to die subsided and i was not as anxious. I realized at that point it was just anxiety and not me going to die!
I realized i myself could control all my feelings just by knowing its only anxiety.
So i stopped all meds that day. And have not taken any for a few years now. (I do drink and smoke weed though)
Over time i got better and better. Now i can do basically anything.
Im still a fruitloop (Acute personality) which wont change any time soon, but have worked out how to manage that also.
When i get angry with the world (atleast once a month) i just pack up and go camping.
By myself so i can get my anger and emotions out where i cant hurt anyone.

I have found a way to function pretty well now and my family is MUCH better off for it.
I hope you find a way also man as i know how hard it can be.

Hi DAMINK. Thanks for that frank disclosure. To be perfectly honest I had you down as a bit of a fruit loop, but that was OK because so am I sometimes. In Light of what you have just said, I can now say that I will accept any loopyness from you in the future, without blinking an eye.

Originally Posted by cuppabillytea

Hi DAMINK. Thanks for that frank disclosure. To be perfectly honest I had you down as a bit of a fruit loop, but that was OK because so am I sometimes. In Light of what you have just said, I can now say that I will accept any loopyness from you in the future, without blinking an eye.

Pot........kettle?

Originally Posted by DAMINK

Im chiming in on this one really late.
I feel for ya man, i really do.
We both are in similar situations or so it seems.
Im about the same age, had similar problems growing up. (abuse)
Did my trade but as i got older **** changed. What happened to me when i was young started to take over my life much like yours.
Went to heaps of docs, ended up diagnosed with Bipolar, PTSD and Acute personality disorder.
Got put on meds, which over time destroyed me! Thought i was going to die every minute of every day for over a year. Anxiety was so bad i would just leave the house and my heart would bounce out of my chest.
Which was weird as i was never like that. I love adrenaline rushes normally! Never been afraid of anything.
Destroyed my career totally and forced onto pension.
Been on it for a few years now.

The reason i replied to this thread is first to offer my sympathy as its tough man, but also what happened to me up till now.

One day i was at the docs who i had been going to for many years.
He chatted with me for a while when i noticed the feeling i was going to die subsided and i was not as anxious. I realized at that point it was just anxiety and not me going to die!
I realized i myself could control all my feelings just by knowing its only anxiety.
So i stopped all meds that day. And have not taken any for a few years now. (I do drink and smoke weed though)
Over time i got better and better. Now i can do basically anything.
Im still a fruitloop (Acute personality) which wont change any time soon, but have worked out how to manage that also.
When i get angry with the world (atleast once a month) i just pack up and go camping.
By myself so i can get my anger and emotions out where i cant hurt anyone.

I have found a way to function pretty well now and my family is MUCH better off for it.
I hope you find a way also man as i know how hard it can be.

Thank Damink. Dunno about the weed but I do smoke normal smokes.

Originally Posted by banjo

Thank Damink. Dunno about the weed but I do smoke normal smokes.

You mean there actually is something normal about you