Thread: If you never had the chance to meet your dad...

Originally Posted by LSD_AUTOMOTIVE

yes, sorry...I signed in under the non-business name...if you click my signature it should give you the back story needed

im so sorry Sarah! if theres anything i can do from across the pond let me know.

you're #1 is very important. i know this personally...

Thank you

My younger brother John died a few years ago leaving a wife and son (then 4yo). Millie kept some tools (John was a sparkie), pictures of course, a watch and all the bits of paper you mentioned.

A couple of weeks ago they were broken into and theives took, amongst other things, the watch, some of the tools and other bits and pieces.

My point is make sure you store these treasures in a manner the deserve. Like at the bank.

Yes, I work at a bank...I can have a free safe packet and free safety deposit box... I'll investigate the options. I'm so sorry they lost those items. That would be awful

Ok unless i'm reading it wrong, the first line says "if you never had the chance to meet your dad", well if he wasnt around for me to meet him then no physical object would make any difference to the way i felt about him.
Two scenario's would change my above comments -

1) if he didnt stick around after i was born then good riddance to him and i'd want nothing.

2) if he died tragically before i was born then any photo's, books, journals/diaries and the like would be my choice.

Originally Posted by loanrangie

Ok unless i'm reading it wrong, the first line says "if you never had the chance to meet your dad", well if he wasnt around for me to meet him then no physical object would make any difference to the way i felt about him.
Two scenario's would change my above comments -

1) if he didnt stick around after i was born then good riddance to him and i'd want nothing.

2) if he died tragically before i was born then any photo's, books, journals/diaries and the like would be my choice.

Um..perhaps taking note of the back story would be a good idea.

He died tragically and my son is one, so he won't remember him and it is virtually the same as never meeting him. I think physical objects make all the difference. It has nothing to do with changing how my son feels, it's about giving him the chance to know the sort of person his father was.

Apart from the physical, collect stories of and about him... to show what sort of person he was, his mannerisms, quirks, all sorts of "little things".... indeed the mundane will be just as valued in later years for the sense of connected-ness they give...

Whilst I have only a few artifacts of my father, I'm comforted (?) I suppose, and somehow feel at one with his abilities and life...knowing we both have the same instinctive reaction when in a storm at sea...

Silly little things...

did Simon ever write to you? any love letters? When Lucas is older and trying to gain some sense of "who" his Dad was, especially when hopefully the time arrives and he has children of his own, such mementos can become very important in providing some 'direction' not just the "inner man" but as a broader picture of a man who loved his wife. Kids want and need to see / believe in that .. plus the suggestions of others re. his possessions. I wish you well. I think you are very brave!