Thread: sometimes life is just too short

I know what you mean, Bob. I went to the funeral of a 56yo ex-colleague last Monday. A lovely bloke, got sick, diagnosed with cancer 6 weeks ago. I wish I'd known before he passed away.

We got on well together (I even liked him!) even though he was an engineer and I a technical officer! He, too, was a bit of a larrikin.

I went to a funeral of one of my students dads on Monday. He died from emphysema and it was very sad, only 50's and he too was a "work hard, party harder" type larrikin in his early days.

Even more painful was two funerals I went to last December for two boys I taught for 5 years and they dragged with another car and ended up hugging a tree. One was 17 the other 18. Passenger took the full hit, so bad cops thought the car only had one occupant. Great kids, just silly decisions.

Now..... Life is definitely to short, sometimes.

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I have been thinking a lot about this lately. Where I work there has been at least 5 or 6 funerals in the last two months and all under 55 I think. Though that is in an Aboriginal community so dying young is more the norm unfortunately .

Recently I have been working 6 days a week but have just handed in my resignation for two of my jobs and will be going back to working 4 days a week which I used to do. I have a young family and they are much more important than work. I think over working has played its part in me being crook with the flu for the last 2 weeks - a good sign to slow down.

Mr ploppy that's exactly what my year has been, it's simply not worth working yourself into an early ground.

Ps... Love you pic of the dog!

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Originally Posted by Barney2803

Mr ploppy that's exactly what my year has been, it's simply not worth working yourself into an early ground.

Ps... Love you pic of the dog!

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Definitely need to get the balance right. Last year I caught up with an old school mate, and I hadn't relaised his dad had died of cancer. On his death bed his dad apparently said he had wasted his life by focusing so much on work and being away from the family home. It really hit home for my mate.

That pic is of my old mate who died a couple of months ago. He is missed.

i had a funeral last wednesday as well, good friend of mine, only 19.. had a week left of school and had plans to travel the world. he had already been to vegas, thailand and europe, to do training for fighting which he did. he was very focused did mai thai, kick boxing, mma etc. won i think 4 out of 5 fights he had had.

anyway when he was in thailand about this time last year he met a swedish chick, and went over to visit her for 3 weeks about 5 or 6 weeks ago. when he came back he was happy as, him and this girl were going to do the long distance relationship thing (i was a bit skeptical but whatever) .

wednesday evening two weeks ago, my mate whos his older brother rang me up 'blakes hanged himself' . found in the house by his dad and step brother. turns out the girl had broken up with him a few days after he got back to oz. and he couldnt handle it. such a waste of a popular, talented guy. the worst thing is, she was his first love and he probably would have got over it in a few weeks or months if he had of given himself the chance.

hes the second friend out of that group of mates to hang himself in less than 6 months. the first guy was on the gear a bit and i was always a bit worried about him, but the second guy blake wasnt at all, hardly even drank.

sorry for the hijack by the way .

Originally Posted by chris_mack

i had a funeral last wednesday as well, good friend of mine, only 19.. had a week left of school and had plans to travel the world. he had already been to vegas, thailand and europe, to do training for fighting which he did. he was very focused did mai thai, kick boxing, mma etc. won i think 4 out of 5 fights he had had.

anyway when he was in thailand about this time last year he met a swedish chick, and went over to visit her for 3 weeks about 5 or 6 weeks ago. when he came back he was happy as, him and this girl were going to do the long distance relationship thing (i was a bit skeptical but whatever) .

wednesday evening two weeks ago, my mate whos his older brother rang me up 'blakes hanged himself' . found in the house by his dad and step brother. turns out the girl had broken up with him a few days after he got back to oz. and he couldnt handle it. such a waste of a popular, talented guy. the worst thing is, she was his first love and he probably would have got over it in a few weeks or months if he had of given himself the chance.

hes the second friend out of that group of mates to hang himself in less than 6 months. the first guy was on the gear a bit and i was always a bit worried about him, but the second guy blake wasnt at all, hardly even drank.

sorry for the hijack by the way .

Dont worry about the hijack, so sorry about your mate. So much more I would like to say, but dont know how to say it . One thing I will say, no problem is too difficult to solve, no matter how hard it seems at the time.Dont go to the dark side, remain positive , as the song says "always look on the bright side of life" Bob

Originally Posted by bob10

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Dont go to the dark side, remain positive , as the song says "always look on the bright side of life" Bob

Unfortunately it isn't that simple.

When someone is in that internal hole/hell there is no apparent way out.