Thread: Hug your loved ones, and often

Terribly sorry to hear the news mate. Hope you're okay
You have my deepest and most sincere condolences
Muppet

Originally Posted by wagoo

My dear sweet and lovely wife and soul mate of 11 years finally lost her 5 year battle with mental illnes yesterday morning in a 4th and final attempt at taking her own life.
Whilst the medical and psychiatric fraturnity did everything they could to help her over those years, and she showed every sign of encouraging progress to all concerned, something snapped and this time I found her too late to revive her.
We had our usual marital domestic arguments over the years, but I loved her deeply,although she knew I loved her I rarely told her so,and probably often took her love for granted.
I don't know if showing affection and my feelings to her more often would have led to a happier outcome, but the thought is something that will haunt me forever. I've learned one very sad lesson, and that is the Anglo/Aussie macho bull$hit about hiding your feeling and never showing emotion is exactly that,bull****.
Please, if there is someone in your life whom you care deeply about,give them a big hug and tell them how much you love and care about them, and do it often. I'd give my life to be able to turn the clock back just 48 hours to give her that reassurance whilst she was alive instead of whilst holding her lifeless and broken body in my arms.
Bill.

Same thing happened to my mum mate, in 2007. She had Bi-Polar disorder, and she was in Canberra, away from most of her support networks like long standing friends, and family. I spent all of my leave looking after her, and then days after I came back up, and she'd been looking happier, she made her way back to her house and ended her life. I think they often feel happier when they have decided that they are going to do it, and when they have figured out a plan.

Deepest condolences and empathy from someone who has been there. Don't blame yourself mate.

Bill, I am so sorry to hear that. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Ron

My condolences Bill, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Sam

Truly sorry to hear. My condolences.

Max P

Bill

I want to pass our condolences on to you.

Regards Arthur and Denise Blackwell

You have my thoughts and best wishes,

Regards

Stevo

Terribly sad to read this - please accept our sincere condolences....

Thank you for making the effort to share with us.... it must have been very difficult