Marriage course

**BST4X4XFA** · 23rd August 2013, 02:34 PM

My dad told me two things regarding marraige:

1. Son, marry for money and work for love!

I didn't, I married for love and now I'm working for money and so did he.

2. In any argument with your spouse you have to get in the last word, no matter the cost. "Yes Dear"

DiscoMick · 23rd August 2013, 03:01 PM

I've done a couple and led some and it seems their main value is in weeding out the people who:

Have totally unrealistic expectations of their partner and themselves
Are ignoring the facts about each other
Are in love with the idea of being in love
Are gold diggers after money and security
Are marrying because of pressure from others
etc

The main thing I look for is if the couple are actually good friends with similar interests and outlooks on life. Once the honeymoon glow wears off, will they still want to be around each other?
If they're real friends, they'll be OK.

AndrewGJones · 23rd August 2013, 04:55 PM

Originally Posted by DiscoMick

Are in love with the idea of being in love

That would sum up western society wouldn't it?

**carjunkieanon** · 24th August 2013, 09:40 AM

Originally Posted by DiscoMick

I've done a couple and led some and it seems their main value is in weeding out the people who:

Have totally unrealistic expectations of their partner and themselves
Are ignoring the facts about each other
Are in love with the idea of being in love
Are gold diggers after money and security
Are marrying because of pressure from others
etc

The main thing I look for is if the couple are actually good friends with similar interests and outlooks on life. Once the honeymoon glow wears off, will they still want to be around each other?
If they're real friends, they'll be OK.

Getting a realistic expectation seems pretty critical. You've heard the adage, don't wear rose tinted glasses before the wedding, but put them on afterwards.

**NT5224** · 24th August 2013, 07:19 PM

Never been on a marriage course. Lived together with my wife for ten years before we tied the knot so knew what we were getting into.

I reckon some religious denominations insist on marriage courses as ways of trying to ensure that resulting offspring are raised in their particular faith. Make of that what you will....

However -and at risk of going off topic- I see considerable value in having preparation for parenting. Lots of couples just have kids because its somehow expected and are not particularly prepared to do so. Parenting is one of the greatest responsibilities somebody can assume and yet in most cases there is no preparation.

Cheers

Alan

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