Thread: Cancer. The awkward conversation.

Originally Posted by JDNSW

A few years ago I had a hernia operation - the surgeon wanted a scan so he knew in detail what he was dealing with. It covered most of the trunk. I mentioned it to my melanoma oncologist on the next checkup, and he was looking at it on his laptop within two minutes.

Fortunately, nothing was found.

digital exam (which is the old-fashioned way!)

Not with a Laptop either. By 'eck the urologist is as quick as Flash Gordon with his digit, ie. Bend> in out> job done, next, in my case.

Unfortunately I had the incontinence problem which drove me bonkers & still does, not to mention 'er indoors. It was suggested that I have a Urethral Sling fitted but that hasn't stopped the problem for now & I don't believe it will. In the meantime my man has quit his practice & now I am in the hands of a Specialist who seems to think that maybe surgery & complete removal may not have been the way to go. WOW! No Kid! It turns out my first bloke was the last in Adelaide to do it surgically (now he tells me ) nowadays it is only done with the "TV Remote" Maybe the incontinence problem wouldn't have occurred. Anyway there is no going back now & I have to live with it.

The first Urologist claimed surgery would give him a chance to examine everything & he didn't recommend Remote at the time.
At the end of the day it was my decision & so I am stuck with it. Knowledge of the Pros & Cons didn't seem to be available.

PSA of late seems to be a tad erratic but I have another test come Feb 2023 & if still increasing I'm informed there are now non invasive treatments available so I'll see where that takes me. At 86 I may just say bugger it all.

Originally Posted by scarry

A bit off topic,but you gotta watch that AF,it put an end to my Mother.
I inherited it from her,but got it at an age,25yrs earlier than she did.

Had an Ablation 5 yrs ago,good so far.
Hoping its gone for good.

Anyway,good luck with it all.

It really is a bit of a bastard Paul, innit?


We are doomed to deal with the cards that are dealt to us.

Not all bad here now, but 30 years ago I had Bowel Ca. "Oh ****, that's the end of me life" stuff which was the thinking back then but thank God diagnosis & treatment has improved since then, so still here after many Routine Colonoscopies. (SP?)

My old Dad of 49 died with Lymphoma & the treatment for that seemed horrendous especially from the "Ray" treatment (in it's infancy then) which burnt the poor bugger to buggery & he lost his voice to a whisper but that may have been the surgery I recall he had.

I still miss him even to day & that was nearly 60 years ago. Dads can have that effect.

And now my youngest Bruv is being treated for months for something "they" have not quite put their finger on it but each month it does seem more positive so fingers crossed for him.

They have had a shufti at his brain (but I told him that was a pointless exercise ) but they did find summat, so who knows??

Maybe all this **** is simply hereditary?