How old is old enuff to leave home?

**Relay** · 19th September 2007, 07:45 PM

It's times like these I really value my family.

But amongst my friends I've seen so much of the yo-yo effect. Leaving home only to return.

I suppose, from a young(ish) person's perspective what I really wanted when; was my parents to stop being so nosy. I think by giving him his dues and space you are definately doing the right thing. Dont doubt yourself because he'll know if you are. Explain to 'mum' that she still has a boy, but that he's growing up now and that she needs to let him, however he chooses to do so. I wonder idly, if you could contact his girlfriend. Not sure on the exact scenario but if you become well acquainted with her, and I mean learn to like her, your boy might start to see things in a different light. My parents are using this ploy currently on my brother, and so far it's working. (Mind you my brother is a little older)

Use your leverage. If he does contact you for any reason offer him something unexpected. A chance to have a beer with you, or maybe even to go for a drive if he's got his L's. At that age, to be 'self-sufficient' like he wants to be he needs to be able to drive. Helping him achieve his goals might up your chances of helping at least guide his footsteps.

Talk to her parents if they're available. And see what you can do together. I'm sure they're probably just as worried as you are.

Good luck. You'll need it.

landyfromanuthaland · 19th September 2007, 08:13 PM

The girl friend is a real missile twister, shes a troll, older then him and definatley a bad influence, she is half the problem, she lies and bull****s and we dont want her around, mind u his mates arent much better, some will no doubt have careers as crims

mcrover · 19th September 2007, 09:12 PM

I was going to say that you are well old enough to leave home Andy but I dont think your wife would like it.

I see now that your not talking about yourself

I left at 18 and only went back home for 1 winter to work on Mt Buller so my money is 18.

tombraider · 19th September 2007, 09:34 PM

I moved out at 16 and Joined the RAN...Got tattooed etc...

Discharged after a while and moved around... Perth, then Adelaide...I've lived in Melbourne, Sydney, Perth, Adelaide, Whyalla...

But never moved back to my parents home once I moved out...

I did however run a business with the old man though, for 16 years.... And the relationship was ok...

Then we sold the business, now, as we dont see each other every damn day, we're great mates...

And I havent called him 'Dad' for over 16 years...

Its just my mate 'Pete"

**p38arover** · 19th September 2007, 10:37 PM

Originally Posted by twitchy

Yeah & eat something.........lol.

Que?

I think I've missed something.

Ron

**rovercare** · 19th September 2007, 10:56 PM

Originally Posted by p38arover

Que?

I think I've missed something.

Ron

Munchies from being stoned, makes you hungry

**rovercare** · 19th September 2007, 10:59 PM

Glad I had a good relationship with the old boy, went through alot of **** at 15 but, failed year 10, then left, but with some good advice(keep going the way you are and you'll turn out like your ****ing scumbag brother

) and a bit of real guidance, not so much as a parent, I've been working since 16 and doing pretty well (althoughcriminal records and stuff might show a different story

)

I think alittle more time spent with him as a mate, would go very far

**p38arover** · 19th September 2007, 11:22 PM

Originally Posted by rovercare

Munchies from being stoned, makes you hungry

Ahh. I've never tried drugs (apart from alcohol and cigarettes).

Ron.

**rovercare** · 19th September 2007, 11:28 PM

Originally Posted by p38arover

Ahh. I've never tried drugs (apart from alcohol and cigarettes).

Ron.

Great stuff, you sit around tired, bur can't sleep because nobody else is, ridiculously hungry and thirsty (dry's and munchies) but are far to lethargic to do anything about it

Good in very mild moderation but, only in roll your owns

I've worked jobs for years now with drug testing, so it wasn't an option and no longer smoke, maybe once a year, but only a toke....but if they drug tested in the place I work now, they wouldn't have any operators left

**Disco Steve** · 19th September 2007, 11:31 PM

Originally Posted by p38arover

Ahh. I've never tried drugs (apart from alcohol and cigarettes).

Ron.

Good on you Ron. Ive never touched the stuff (apart from alchohol)

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