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Hey mate, good to hear you just put it down to a bad day. Hell, methinks you are in a common boat....I would have given you some advice the old man used to give me...something like heres a tablespoon of cement and go....well you know the rest ;). The other advice he gave me, moreso when I came home after popping to the shop for 1/2 an hr and coming home to find my 2 week old son and 18mth old daughter gone.....my missus had shot back to WA....I didnt know where they were for almost 48hrs.

Anyway long story short, I missed the first 6 mths of my son growing up ( hence why I value the time I have with my other 2 boys, especially Jackson as he is now 5 mths) and of course my angel who was a daddys girl and still is:). I got tanked to the eyeballs, drank a bottle of jack and crawled to bed...........that was it. That was were the cement came in :D, plus as my old man said at the time......there could be things 1000 times worse than the situation I was in. I wont go into them as he is pretty stark and blunt with how he puts things across but I have taken that with me when it comes to tough times. 10 yrs later, I still miss my babies when I drop them off like today and have to wait 3-4 days before I can see them again, but thats life.

Tough for me is when I see a program like I did yesterday with Ewan Macgregor and Charlie Boorman visiting HIV orphans is Africa. A child losing both parents at 13, having to fend for himself, children of my own childrens age and younger lining up for their daily rations, living in squalor. If I have a bad day, I think of that and all of a sudden I am thankful for bills to pay, it means I have a roof over my head, food in my stomach, ability to provide for my family and opportunity. See all good :D,

Regards

Stevo

Thanks Stevo ;) . I have had a lot of bad things happen since i was 13 but up until just over 12 months ago none of the crap had gotten to me . Once my back screwed up it seemed to of put me just over the edge and I collapsed and woke up in hospital wondering what the hell had happened . I have been close to the point where i have had the knife it my wrist just breaking the skin and stopped as i couldn't do it to my wife and kids . I love my family to bits and they are the first thing i think of every morning which makes a great start to the day . And if it wasn't for a great Doc and a loving wife i wouldn't be the person i am today . I owe my life to my wife as she has been the back bone with all this .

My main reason for talking about my depression is it does make me feel like i'm releasing all the held up crap i have kept to myself over the years and i feel better for it . So thanks for not taking the micky out of me .

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Thanks Stevo ;) . I have had a lot of bad things happen since i was 13 but up until just over 12 months ago none of the crap had gotten to me . Once my back screwed up it seemed to of put me just over the edge and I collapsed and woke up in hospital wondering what the hell had happened . I have been close to the point where i have had the knife it my wrist just breaking the skin and stopped as i couldn't do it to my wife and kids . I love my family to bits and they are the first thing i think of every morning which makes a great start to the day . And if it wasn't for a great Doc and a loving wife i wouldn't be the person i am today . I owe my life to my wife as she has been the back bone with all this .

My main reason for talking about my depression is it does make me feel like i'm releasing all the held up crap i have kept to myself over the years and i feel better for it . So thanks for not taking the micky out of me .

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Mick, you know what they say , behind every great man is an even greater woman! I wouldn't've achieved half of what I have without my better half. Great to hear you are tackling it all head on, keep at it and remember you'd be very suprised how many people do actually care about others:D

Onward and upward!

JC

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My main reason for talking about my depression is it does make me feel like i'm releasing all the held up crap i have kept to myself over the years and i feel better for it .

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Good onya. And this little black duck is happy to take a PM anytime you want to vent the spleen.

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I collapsed and woke up in hospital wondering what the hell had happened . I have been close to the point where i have had the knife it my wrist just breaking the skin and stopped as i couldn't do it to my wife and kids . I love my family to bits and they are the first thing i think of every morning which makes a great start to the day . And if it wasn't for a great Doc and a loving wife i wouldn't be the person i am today . I owe my life to my wife as she has been the back bone with all this .

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The above make you a real man. Not taking the easy way out. you have thought of others 1st. Well done on your strength.
What you have been through seems quite common these days so you are not alone and is OK to talk about.
Most of us have had our moments.
Heads up and put the bad past behind.
When you are down try and find a few good memories and concentrate on them.
Tony

So why is your life so crap?

No one else is going to change it for you, so if you don't like it do something productive. The past is the past, forget it. Bad stuff happens to everyone, you either deal with it or it will deal with you.

If the average age is 82yrs or 43128720 minutes why are you wasting 1 of them with a negative attitude?

Topping yourself? What the frig for? Thats just passing your crap onto your family and friends, bloody selfish, why should they have to deal with your problems and your loss as well?

Hiding in a bottle will not solve crap, it will actually produce more problems and you know it.

I am not bagging you out, just giving you a reality check the way I see it, Yes you may think I have a warped view of the world but IMHO my life is bloody good. Even the crap bits have good points. So can I really be wrong? If people don't like me I couldn't really give a crap, it's they're problem. They have one of two options, act like a tool , or come around to my way of thinking. Either way I will treat them as they treat me. I am not the richest person in the world, I am the prettiest (I am a very good looking man) , I am not the most popular or liked. I believe in God he is me and mine, we come first.
If I couldn't pay my bills, I'd change the situation I was in because the world isn't going to change for me.

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So why is your life so crap?

No one else is going to change it for you, so if you don't like it do something productive. The past is the past, forget it. Bad stuff happens to everyone, you either deal with it or it will deal with you.

If the average age is 82yrs or 43128720 minutes why are you wasting 1 of them with a negative attitude?

Topping yourself? What the frig for? Thats just passing your crap onto your family and friends, bloody selfish, why should they have to deal with your problems and your loss as well?

Hiding in a bottle will not solve crap, it will actually produce more problems and you know it.

I am not bagging you out, just giving you a reality check the way I see it, Yes you may think I have a warped view of the world but IMHO my life is bloody good. Even the crap bits have good points. So can I really be wrong? If people don't like me I couldn't really give a crap, it's they're problem. They have one of two options, act like a tool , or come around to my way of thinking. Either way I will treat them as they treat me. I am not the richest person in the world, I am the prettiest (I am a very good looking man) , I am not the most popular or liked. I believe in God he is me and mine, we come first.
If I couldn't pay my bills, I'd change the situation I was in because the world isn't going to change for me.

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Just curious if you have known anybody well that has had depression?

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Originally Posted by dobbo

So why is your life so crap?

No one else is going to change it for you, so if you don't like it do something productive. The past is the past, forget it. Bad stuff happens to everyone, you either deal with it or it will deal with you.

If the average age is 82yrs or 43128720 minutes why are you wasting 1 of them with a negative attitude?

Topping yourself? What the frig for? Thats just passing your crap onto your family and friends, bloody selfish, why should they have to deal with your problems and your loss as well?

Hiding in a bottle will not solve crap, it will actually produce more problems and you know it.

I am not bagging you out, just giving you a reality check the way I see it, Yes you may think I have a warped view of the world but IMHO my life is bloody good. Even the crap bits have good points. So can I really be wrong? If people don't like me I couldn't really give a crap, it's they're problem. They have one of two options, act like a tool , or come around to my way of thinking. Either way I will treat them as they treat me. I am not the richest person in the world, I am the prettiest (I am a very good looking man) , I am not the most popular or liked. I believe in God he is me and mine, we come first.
If I couldn't pay my bills, I'd change the situation I was in because the world isn't going to change for me.

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Think that's supposed to be their.....not they're.....:angel:

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............I am not the richest person in the world, I am the prettiest (I am a very good looking man) ,............

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:Rolling::Rolling::Rolling:You are forgetting Dobbo, that we have seen you!:p


Seriously, I'm proud to be part of a forum where people can share their troubles & get moral support from so many people.:BigThumb:

It make you feel all warm & fuzzy inside.:ohyes:

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Just curious if you have known anybody well that has had depression?

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Yes in my closest family circle...........and I still agree with Dobbo:confused:

Time to think = time to dwell, get busy and get active and get constructive, less mourning about the bad and more working towards the good

And the less spare time you have the better;)