Get real! There's more to life than beer. I like a beer as much as anyone, but its not that important!
Willem
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Interesting one....I tend to support what Tote says on this one. I don't think that much has channged since I was a teenager 20+ yrs ago. We didn't get parents to buy us alcohol....we got an old drunk to get us what we needed in exchange for a long neck. I still remember being in the park at the Horden Pavilion waiting to go and see Mental As Anything.....mixing bacardi and coke in our mouths, swishing it together and down the hatch. We all got nailed....only one of us actually got to see the concert. We ( being myself and 2 of my best mates that I grew up together with) would have been around 17.
It has nothing to do with background/ upbringing etc as we all came from good homes, went to private schools and have all grown up to be successful in our various fields and with our own families. I have smoked pot, tried "E's" and had one trip on the light fantastic ( once was definately enough) though this was in my 20's. I was silly enough to start smoking around 18....and hopefully at 41 today....I have finally kicked the habit.
People will experiment......the kicker is that some of the things I did, I hope my own children don't.....but mind you I speak to them about these things...whereas that didnt happen so much when I was younger with my own parents. At the end of the day people will find their own path in life and they will...or won't learn from their mistakes.
Regards
Stevo
I applaud your responsibility schmierer LR at singleton. I was a bit of a rogue when I was a teen, I drank way too much but never to the point of losing control/consciousness or not remembering what I did. However I did get pretty drunk at times and do some silly things.
I was always very careful in regards to sex as it has the ability to completely change your life in one moment of hormone induced passion and I wasn't ready to be a dad at that time. I had a couple of friends at school that fell pregnant at an early age and that spooked me a bit I guess.
I have tried most drugs although not until I was in my mid 20's. I have not gone anywhere near opiates (i.e. heroin) due to my fear of heavy addiction. I mostly tried the drugs to see what affect they had, to satisfy my curiosity and also so I could tell my kids why not to take drugs.
I smoked too much pot at one stage and I am still paying for it in subtle ways. My short term memory has been severely diminished by it and I also find that I struggle some times to recall the most simple of words. The misconception that pot is not bad is completely misguided.
I have friends that had major psychotic episodes from smoking pot and ended up in psych wards on medication and still aren't completely back to normal.
Another person I once knew regularly smoked pot, took some acid one day and then proceeded to attack his grandmother with an axe because, in his words he "thought she was the devil". He is now in maximum security psych institution charged with murder. He was not a friend but he was a friend of a friend.
Admittedly these people may have had a predisposition to mental illness but I also believe that had they not smoked pot it would have gone largely unnoticed.
I have seen too many friends go down the path of self destruction and even died due to drug and alcohol abuse. From heroin overdoses and addiction, to becoming complete psychopaths from taking too much ice. I have watched friends lose everything because of their speed addiction.
One friend totalled his car blind drunk, speeding (amphetamines and literally) off his head, and in turn wrote off about five other cars at an intersection. Luckily he didn't kill anyone but he did try to drive off in his almost destroyed xr8. He will be paying this off for the rest of his life. He was lucky to not go to prison, as due to his unblemished past he struck a deal to go to the army instead of prison and the judge thought that was a good idea.
All I can say is stay well away form so called soft drugs they mess with your head in subtle ways so as you don't realise it's happening until it's all too late. Drugs in most cases are harmless in moderation like alcohol, for most people, however there are some people whom from only one joint can have a complete psychotic episode and never quite recover. This is documented medical fact that I'm sure you can source.
My advice is, drink in moderation, enjoy safe sex but even then I would try and hold off for as long as possible until you meet the right person. It's only ever your first time once you should try and make it memorable as you will never forget it.
And last of all stay right away from drugs, and if you are curious as to their effects I am happy to talk to you more in-depth and even introduce you to some of these friends that have had drug induced incidents. Unfortunately some have died due to their experimentation and cannot share their story.
I would also suggest that if your step dad is coming home and being abusive towards you and your mother you might want to suggest to him that he get some help. Alcoholism is very destructive for both the alcoholic and the family and friends of the alcoholic. That is not acceptable behaviour and should not be tolerated at all. Generally it only gets worse. I have a friend who is a drug and alcohol councillor if you need some help as to how to approach the situation I'm sure she would be more than happy to offer advice.
That is my story, my name is Josh and I am a landrover addict.;)
40 years ago when I was twenty I had a bit of a crush on a girl who drank, and went to a party with her and had a few. I was totally okay when I tleft to drive home, but for some reason the steering was playing up and I mounted the hump down the center of the road several times.. That is when I decided I shouls pull up and sleep it off, in the back of my VW station Wagon. This happened three times. After that I vowed never to get drunk again, and in the 40 years since have never been drunk once, because all I drink is fruit juice/water/ soft drink [occasionally], though a few times I drank de-alcoholised wine. I do not think I missed out on anything by not drinking, exept hangovers, etc.
Get smashed friday night,
Get even more smashed on saturday,
Then sleep it off on sunday???
I don't know how people (specifically school kids) can do this. Don't they have a job?
I do 5 days a week at uni and work all weekend and thursday night at BCF - I have every opertunity to go out to party's on a saturday night but cannot drink because i don't want to risk loosing my license then next day driving to work after havin a few the night before. I have been brought up knowing that if i wanted something like a car or petrol for my car that i would have to earn it, and I did as shown by now having two registered cars plus another farm hack.
I was at a mates place on friday night last week as he was having a gatho (i wasn't drinking because i had work the next day at 8am) and all my mates were queing up to go for rides in my newely registered ex army IIA :D that was enough enjoyment for me haha
More often than not i am designated driver because of work constraints but those damn P-plate laws don't help as i can only drive one of my mates home after 11pm. I'm on 'green' Ps now so i think this doesn't apply to me anymore but it was an annoyance. I'm fine with being DD as long as people don't mind riding in a open top Series land rover bwhahahaha
Jack, 18
Those new rules are another example of legislating to a minority of idiots and affecting the majority.
Love the HZ, my first car was a HG kingswood 253 V8
hahaha cheers mate, it's a great car 202 and 3-on-the-tree manual - gives me no problems, drove 5 bloke to school and back every day last year through peek hour and didn't even notice. Just rolled over 400,000kms and drives like it has done less than 100k couldn't speak more highly of a car
Would have liked a V8 though :( would have got a V8 kingy straight up if it wasnt for that law too...
As a dad of three urban terrorists I can understand you completely, my older boys whos 19 now is a binge drinker and just admittied hes been dropping pingers (eccys) his mood swings were incredible, he goes out every nite gets blotto comes home at all hours and sleeps until 3 in the arvo gets up and does it again, this ones a constant worry for us he doesnt want to do anything with his life and I am over it, my middle boy has really blazed a trail in his 17 years been to court 8 times in 2 years for various offences from touching up a minor to agg robbery and dui on first day of his Ps with a stack of other stuff in between he is my main worry as his little brother is 14 and watching all this go on,
I must give the baby credit he is sensible but getting curious now about things like booze drugs etc I watch him like a hawk, its all about being accepted by there peers, drinking, smoking, pingers, raves, clubs its aheavy scene for them these days, the generations have changed so much not like when I was a sprog, the house is constantly full of young thrill seekers and girls who shouldnt be wearing what they wear for the ages they are. I give lots of kudos to any teenager who can avoid this, it is far from cool to act like this but sadly i think theres bugger all we can do to prevent it but just hope they learn when there older what they have done to themselves, what a waste of money, if I had all the money I spent on booze and smokes back I would be rich, but thats life we blaze our own trail I guess, we all experimented, if you want an addiction by a Landy, if you want to be poor, buy a Landy, want to escape the world, buy a Landy you can spend your money on worse things like booze, drugs and all the other stuff.
I am not cool, never have been, never will be, I am not a gangster according to my kids and dont speak the lingo, dont do secret hand shakes with the bros and do those little manly hugs they do, cant stand the music, the attitudes, the lack of disrepsect to the older generations, dont like the fact I am really powerless to stop them following the bad trails, my boys use words like bro, bra, brew when there talking to the homies on the phone, I get up em and say a bro is your brother, women wear bras and a brew is a billy full of tea, dont care how old they are no skanks stay under my roof in boys rooms, that is a big disrespect to mum in my eyes, I never took girls home wont have it here, bring back nasho service, plonk them in the Army for 3 years and then turn them loose, couldnt hurt!, good on you Lad keep resisting and you will be fine, see where you are in 15 years time and see where your mates are, intersting to see the results.
yeah i dont like that rap ****ty crap music you cant hear what they say im a bit more old school in alot of ways like country music mainly slim dusty and a bit of smokey dawson of late.
one thing i find hard is to pick a career now i no everyone says do what you enjoy(in my case primary school teaching) but when you see people do trades getting paid along the way and end up getting paid more then what you do after paying to go to uni you just cant help feeling tempted to go after the big bucks but i would like to be a teacher and hopefully blend that with working on our family property since it has been in our family for 153 years(yay woo mineral rights) but you could easly send me back 150 years ago and would be happy with my horse and cart and bullocks
but you have to be realistic with your goals and cant be just looking at the money side all the time for example one of my friends he has turned up 7 days on time to school and when he is there he normally wags class and goes to maccas or smokes out the back and he wants to be a doctor or a dentists because they get paid alot this is a guy who didnt even get over 50% in one of his subjects last year
my advice to parents is dont give your kids money with out them earning it the majority of kids get part time jobs and i think that is a reely good way for them to value money alot kids that get money constantly given to them and alot of money spent on them will just think that when they finally go out and live by them selves that they can afford everything and will and up in debt within a couple of months
iam given a $5 allowance a week and have been done for the last 4 years now that doesnt seem like much but it does get me by a save it up for something i want and never let it get empty(i do get other money for birthdays xmas and from my scholarship) but when i was in year 3 kids said what are yo saving up for and i said a car and they all laughed at me but from saving up for about 7 years i have managed to buy a car(landy off course) and 3 project cars(also landys) with plenty left over and now i have a rapid saver account the best thing for young people so now i get about $50 a month in interest( USE TO BE $76 BUT BANKS DROPPED) i hope some of you parents take on board of what i have said because i think it is realy great advice.:)