Thread: Embarrassment

Originally Posted by banjo

No idea he never said to make another one just if not better in a week or so double the dose of tablets....

Maybe you need a second opinion. sounds a bit too carefree for me.

Originally Posted by banjo

I truely do but i think from what Karen tells me i will be out on my ass as soon as she is better...

I think you need to realise Jason that anything that is said or done until she is better can't be banked on.

Read back on what Mrs Ho Har said - that's exactly what is like when the black dog's go ya.

I'd be trying to get another docotrs opinion on Karen's health.

Jason, concentrate on one thing at a time. Your priority is to get Karen well, then things might start falling back into place. Can you or Karen ask the doctor for a referal to a specialist for her?

I agree. She needs better health care. Is there a Women's Health Centre there with someone experienced in menopause and depression?

Don't put any pressure on her about the future now - just stop talking about it and stop assuming the worst. It's not possible for her to predict any sort of future when she's depressed, so don't even raise the subject. Just concentrate on getting her well and keep your fears to yourself - she doesn't need to hear them now and raising the subject is not going to achieve anything positive, except to annoy or depress her even more. That includes the whole tatoo bloke issue - all raising that does is to reinforce her sense of depression.

Just focus on supporting her, as much as she'll accept, and getting her the help she needs.

Jason..I REALY think Karen needs a seconded opinion here...just saying take another couple of pills a day doesn't cut it....

Karen If you read this PLEASE seek more advice as I don't think you are geting quality advice where you are going..


Mrs hh

Jason, I agree with what has been said by the other posters on this thread. That is, this Doctor seems to be a bit to lax and carefree, Karen has a problem/s and you want answers. I too suggest another opinion, now, without trying to cause further problems between you and Karen, what I did when I was going through my cancer problems a couple of years ago was ALWAYS have somebody else in there with me when I visited a Doctor. The reason being that you are very upset (I was) and you can/do mishear what the Doctor is telling you, and another pair of ears is always a good backup. In my case I always had Mrs Aus with me, and she corrected me on numerous occassions on what the Doctor was actually telling me.
If Karen is uncomfortable with you being there, I would strongly suggest she take a good friend along with her to the appointments. I don't want to stir the pot between you and Karen, if she doesn't want you there, THEN DON'T FORCE IT!!!!
However, it sounds like Karen needs better treatment than what she is getting and I think a good idea is a referal to a Specialist.

Cheers mate and the best of Luck!!!!!!!!!

Well i thought if Karen went somewhere that made her happy she mite be a bit happier when she came home , I didn't realy expect thar she would of booked in for another tattoo thought if she see's her friends & has a chat she mite be happier thats all...

No Karen wont let me in to the doctors with her & her best friend my cousin works so she can't go....Only leaves her other friends at the tattoo shop i spose ???..

I am so lost i want to help by showing her i love her & care for her but this is making it worse.....She wont even talk to me now at all . . . .

I tell Karen everything whats in my head & just chat with her when she's home now i don't have that even so very lost....

Cant seem to do anything right here & now the kids are getting realy worried as well ,They know i will be going to the hospital to live they say thats ok we will come see you . But not sure what to do yet...

Feel so terrible here Karen's sitting on the lounge & i up at the table & it feels like i'm here on my own .the **** that goes on in my head is crap when i'm lonely......

If she won't let you come along or anyone else to the doctors, just get her to ask the dr to write her out a treatment plan, and then follow that! Easy peasy and every doctor I've ever met is happy to do them. We get loads of them through work so our dr's get the gist of why they've been sent through us and an outline of the progression they are wanting the patient to take.

And as far as Newcastle goes, there are actually some really good mental health support agencies and services around. Trust me, I know from experience!!

When I first got sent to a psych for stuff, I went bananas, there was no way I was going to see a fruitloop. But... A few years on, I look back and realise it was one of the best things I ever did. And don't take this the wrong way, but maybe you need to consider seeing someone too mate, you've got a lot of stuff going on, and as much as we all care on here, we ain't professionals, and whilst we try to give our sincere support, maybe you need to sit down and let it all out in a controlled environment to someone who has the right strategies to help you make it a bit easier on yourself.

Seano.