Hug your loved ones, and often

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. My wife's family has mental illness in it and I know how tough it can be at times. My hope is that you may receive some comfort from the following information.

There is a school of thought that there are five main 'love languages' and everyone feels most loved by one or a combination of these. These 'languages' are: words of affirmation, touch, quality time, acts of service and gifts.

Now, while you regret not actually telling her (words of affirmation) as often as you would have liked that you loved her, I am sure that she effectively heard you say those words by either the things you did for her, what you gave her, the time you spent with her and how you touched her.

Hoping this eases at least somewhat your current anguish.

Sheldon

Bill,
Our most sincere and heartfelt condolences...
let the good memories prevail..
Regards to the family..

Extremely sorry to hear this. I had to help my wife through a similar situation when her father did the same thing , he was suffering from bi polar and depression. Try not to get stuck on "what ifs" and "if only's". Instead try and enjoy the happy memories and look forward to the things you enjoy for the future.

Bill, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine putting myself in your place at this time - what a terrible thing for you to have to go through.

As everyone has said don't blame yourself and hang on to the good times as they will put a smile on your face even when you are going through the darkest of times.

Of course make sure you have plenty of family and good friends around to give you those hugs you speak of.

Sincerest condolences,

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Originally Posted by shollie

There is a school of thought that there are five main 'love languages' and everyone feels most loved by one or a combination of these. These 'languages' are: words of affirmation, touch, quality time, acts of service and gifts.

Now, while you regret not actually telling her (words of affirmation) as often as you would have liked that you loved her, I am sure that she effectively heard you say those words by either the things you did for her, what you gave her, the time you spent with her and how you touched her.

Hoping this eases at least somewhat your current anguish.

Sheldon

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Well said.

Please accept my condolences, Bill, just remember you are not alone, reach out if you need to talk. Bob

Terrible news Bill. Very sorry to hear. My deepest condolances.

My deepest condolences Bill.

That sucks :(

My deepest condolences, Thoughts are with you and your family.

Dylan

Sorry to hear the terrible news Bill, my best mate lost his girlfriend to drepression in a very similar way. Keep talking to friends and family for support and try to focus on the good times you both shared.

Regards Eric