Thread: Hug your loved ones, and often

I wish we could fix everything with spanners, it's just not possible.
It's a crappy hand you got dealt but kudos to you for staying at the table.
Our condolences and love to you and yours at this sad time
David and family

If there are any Arborists on the forum I would appreciate some advice on how to preserve the tree where my wife chose to spend her final moments.She expressed wishes that her ashes be returned to Vietnam to reside beside her late parents, so for me and others the tree will be her grave site to pay our respects, and I want to mount a laminated, weather protected photo of her to the tree.
It is an approx 20 year old stringy bark gum around 15 mtrs tall,50cm dia with a forked trunk beginning about 3mtrs from ground level .It was partially scorched on one side in the 2009 bushfires. Although the tree is still alive, the unburnt core is exposed from ground level to the fork junction. the width of the exposed section of core is about 20cm and the bark has grown in such a way as to seal the vertical edges of the exposed area. There is evidence of some rot at ground level. one leg of the fork is almost dead.
If it is thought that the tree cannot be saved I would like to cut the trunk down to a stump approx 1.5 mtrs tall to prevent the wind from blowing it down and mount the photo to the bevelled top of the stump. Any advice on termite proofing what would then be the dead tree stump would also be appreciated. I would like this memorial to last at least 15 years if possible.
Bill.

Bill

I consider myself a pretty hard man.. But your last post just brought a tear to my eye...

Bill, I feel for you in your terrible loss.

Mental illness is such an awfull thing and so much worse when it's in your own family.

While we can do little to help your grief other than sending your best wishes, thoughts and prayers. Remember you are a part of this Land Rover family and we're always here to listen and talk whenever you feel the need.

R.U.O.K?

Diana

Bill, my thoughts are with you. Having had people close to me suffer from mental Illness, I understand what a terrible thing it can be. Sadly unlike an old Land Rover it is not easy to undertand and it can't be fixed in a weekend.

Andy

Bill,
Thank you for your post. I just gave my wife a big hug & kiss, it is easily something to forget to do.
My sincere condolences, our paths have crossed a few times & I know a lot of people think your skills are awesome when it comes to Land Rovers.
I'd like to think your wife married you in the knowledge that you loved her & just wasn't great at showing it. We can't be everything to everyone.

Regards,
David

Bill, so very sorry to hear it mate.
Your sentiment about telling those you love how you feel is one I have passed on to many young parents since losing my daughter in an accident 7 years ago. Always give them a hug and tell them you love them.

It would seem to me that you have been a good supportive husband and this would have been apparent to your wife I am sure.

Also, you seem to be like me in that you have reached out to others, you are already taking the steps you need to take to deal with this tragedy. All I can say to you is that there is no right way to grief but there is a wrong way and that is to do what you think others will expect.

You do what you need to do, reach out to others when you need to as you have done here, take on board the huge amount of support that is the Land Rover community.
Our thoughts are with you and it is obviously a very genuine support that is being shown for you.

Steve

Sorry for your loss. Have some understanding of where you are at. Try to Remember the good times. The other stuff will fade... Keep talking to as many people as you can bear too.

Although we all wish we never had to do it, grieving has purpose. Talk and share your way through it as much as possible.