Thread: When to call time...?

Originally Posted by 4bee

It is supposed to be one of 4 types of 8 that can be treated.

Lucky or wot?

Very. Count your blessings. Jan's liver cancer wasn't, but may have been if found earlier. This is why I have regular blood tests these days.

I'm really sorry that you're having to make these decisions. There is a part of you invested into every project and those aspirations and dreams are hard to let go of.

I'm finding myself in a similar boat where things have taken so long, or stopped, that I soon will have to make a commitment to them and I have to generate a plan to make it happen otherwise it wont.

I think it is one of those things where only you can make the decision and deep down you will know what is right for you. If you are able to make it happen it will be awesome, if its not going to happen as it sounds, then I hope there will still be something else to sink your teeth into to keep you going - we all need that. Keep me in the loop re the SIII also if you go that way - My stalled project, a rolling V8 County chassis needs a SIII ute cab too.

Originally Posted by Tins

Very. Count your blessings. Jan's liver cancer wasn't, but may have been if found earlier. This is why I have regular blood tests these days.

Very similar here as well John.
First noted just before XMAS 2022 but for Type 2 Diabetes (which is present in her Family) & that is what they were chasing, but one doesn't have to be a Medico to realise it was summat more, that one's wife ain't right, but of course she wouldn't listen to me & had faith in the GP. Fair enough, & medications were administered for that.but it made no difference. She lost one helluva lot of weight & was Skin & Bone( Belsen like) This time she listened to me & our youngest daughter (Young??? She is 61) But has had some experience in aged care. She went for a scan at a Local Hospital & things moved very fast from thereon a & we are where we are today. Apparently it was the Cancer giving her Pancreas a workout not the other way around so someone was on the right track eventually.

EDIT. Have had another opinion thatthis may be a bit of crap. WTF!
The confirmation of the real problem was made the same day as our 66th wedding anniversary. GREAT!

I reckon another 2 or 3 weeks in Hospital would have been a good idea, for me that is, & I was getting on so well with my cooking & General Housekeeping. "Meat pie for one? coming right up" Apologies for waffling on but our experience may help someone on here one day.

Originally Posted by 4bee

Very similar here as well John.
First noted just before XMAS 2022 but for Type 2 Diabetes (which is present in her Family) & that is what they were chasing, but one doesn't have to be a Medico to realise it was summat more, that one's wife ain't right, but of course she wouldn't listen to me & had faith in the GP. Fair enough, & medications were administered for that.but it made no difference. She lost one helluva lot of weight & was Skin & Bone( Belsen like) This time she listened to me & our youngest daughter (Young??? She is 61) But has had some experience in aged care. She went for a scan at a Local Hospital & things moved very fast from thereon a & we are where we are today. Apparently it was the Cancer giving her Pancreas a workout not the other way around so someone was on the right track eventually.

The confirmation of the real problem was made the same day as our 66th wedding anniversary. GREAT!

I reckon another 2 or 3 weeks in Hospital would have been a good idea, for me that is, & I was getting on so well with my cooking & General Housekeeping. "Meat pie for one? coming right up" Apologies for waffling on but our experience may help someone on here one day.

Don't apologise. When Jan was diagnosed I started a thread on here that went for a while and humbled me with the level of care demonstrated. Jan was a homebirth midwife, amongst other things. She also got pretty crook years ago, before the whole AIDS scare. Had a transfusion, and they didn't screen blood like they do now. Either that, or some blood transfer at a birth, gave her Hep C. No symptoms. But it slowly killed her liver. It is what it is. But I get tested. Because she didn't.

Saw a bloke today when I was visiting the local OKA and LR doctor ( bloke must be mad ). This fella used to be on the Council, and had a pie shop, great pies. Haven't seen him for a bit. Looking a bit crook. He used to have a 110 double cab ute, with a couple of mutts. Asked him if he had sold it. No way he says, I was up the Kimberley last year. Strewth, I thought he'd struggle getting into the thing. Asked him how old, he says 82. On his own. He knew Jan. I told him I have an OKA. He said "Well ****ing get in it and go". Glad I bumped into him.

66!!! I was four when you two tied the knot. Good innings mate. But you're not out yet.

Originally Posted by Tins

Don't apologise. When Jan was diagnosed I started a thread on here that went for a while and humbled me with the level of care demonstrated. Jan was a homebirth midwife, amongst other things. She also got pretty crook years ago, before the whole AIDS scare. Had a transfusion, and they didn't screen blood like they do now. Either that, or some blood transfer at a birth, gave her Hep C. No symptoms. But it slowly killed her liver. It is what it is. But I get tested. Because she didn't.

Saw a bloke today when I was visiting the local OKA and LR doctor ( bloke must be mad ). This fella used to be on the Council, and had a pie shop, great pies. Haven't seen him for a bit. Looking a bit crook. He used to have a 110 double cab ute, with a couple of mutts. Asked him if he had sold it. No way he says, I was up the Kimberley last year. Strewth, I thought he'd struggle getting into the thing. Asked him how old, he says 82. On his own. He knew Jan. I told him I have an OKA. He said "Well ****ing get in it and go". Glad I bumped into him.

66!!! I was four when you two tied the knot. Good innings mate. But you're not out yet.

My eldest Daughter did a couple of years as a Midwife but these days she has turned into a right piece........ .
Sounds like excellent advice so what are you waiting for? I know, the real estate wallahs.
Had I known, you could have our Page Boy. No, I had that knot tied 50 years ago. Sturgeon was HM the Q's Honorary Sturgeon in SA at the time.

Originally Posted by 4bee

Sounds like excellent advice so what are you waiting for? I know, the real estate wallahs.

Lot more than that. Deciding where to go, and how to get there. Letting go. Walking away from a life which in reality no longer exists. What to keep, what not to. And, a desire to leave on my terms.

Funny how we associate places with memories, when in fact they come with us, in our heads. This is a valuable realisation. The past is a foreign country which I can no longer visit, except in my mind. I even deleted about 10,000 photos from the computer the other day. Quite cathartic, and also demonstrates how pointless so many of them were, taken because there is no limit imposed by needing film. The ubiquity of phone cameras diminishes the uniqueness of photos. I kept about 16,000 though.....🙂

Originally Posted by Tins

Lot more than that. Deciding where to go, and how to get there. Letting go. Walking away from a life which in reality no longer exists. What to keep, what not to. And, a desire to leave on my terms.

Funny how we associate places with memories, when in fact they come with us, in our heads. This is a valuable realisation. The past is a foreign country which I can no longer visit, except in my mind. I even deleted about 10,000 photos from the computer the other day. Quite cathartic, and also demonstrates how pointless so many of them were, taken because there is no limit imposed by needing film. The ubiquity of phone cameras diminishes the uniqueness of photos. I kept about 16,000 though.....🙂

That is all very well, but unlike the olde images we all took & kept it is hard to imagine that with this technology today there will be bugger all as a moment in time for the future.

Once you could pull the olde KODAK Envelope out & discuss the subject. How many B&W images does one see when looking for the history of summat? Lots.

Originally Posted by 4bee

That is all very well, but unlike the olde images we all took & kept it is hard to imagine that with this technology today there will be bugger all as a moment in time for the future.

Once you could pull the olde KODAK Envelope out & discuss the subject. How any B&W images does one see when looking for the history of summat? Lots.

I agree. But on a personal level I do not need around 200 photos taken moments apart of someone I don't remember at a place I've never been. Or photos of people who freeloaded at Jan and my large dinners who have been totally conspicuous by their absence since she died. Or photos of a Quiet Lion Tour I was not on, when I have similar pics taken on those that I was. Etc.