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    These are the tough questions in life at times.

    One year ago I threw and gave away (very little sold) about 90% of my belongings since I sold my house which included a 360m2 shed. It was a very hard life lesson and emotionally quite taxing. The only reason I got through is because it was very hard work, I had mates helping me who could handle or ignore my crankiness and I had something to look forward to.

    About a decade earlier I was in the unfortunate situation that I was forced to think about having to move out (divorce and all that ugliness) and when I did the mental exercise back then I came to the following conclusion: when I finally mentally got to a point that I could let go of one of my prized possessions, it all of a sudden became easy to do the rest. They were all pretty much equal. What it taught me though is that I was capable of doing it!

    What I did in the end was save some stuff that would allow me to keep a hobby and stay busy and my two classic prelude's (go figure). This way I was somewhat future proof and it became a bit easier to let go of the rest. After all, for example I had saved stuff to use in some project that was more than 2 decades out of date and although I -could- make that still work, it was not going to be up to standards.

    The most important thing I think is to have something to "do it for" to look forward to. Make sure that that is a realistic future and has a decent chance of success because if not, and that is the situation I find myself in today (see my other post about "luck" or lack thereof), you run the risk of getting pulled back into doubt, nostalgia if not melancholy.

    I'm pretty sure you will make the right choice mate. 70 years young, you still have time to finish some nice trips and projects right?

    Since you are dry, I'll drink one to your health tonight!

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    Moved house from Heathcote NSW to Bellmere Qld in early 2017. Cleaning the house out we had been in for 10yrs and thought we would be in for another 10 was a chore.
    Filled 2 x 4m3 bins with ****. I cleaned out my shed and I applied some rules.
    1. If I hadn't used it in the last year or 2 then I didn't need it.
    2. If I was unlikely to use it in the next year or 2 then I didn't need it.
    3. If I had forgotten I had it, I didn't need it.
    4. All the "I'll use that for something one day" stuff. You probably won't.

    Applied similar rules to the inside of the house as well. In particular clothing. Doesn't fit - gone. Don't wear it - gone.

    After 5 years in Bellmere there came a separation, unfortunate but things happen. Yet another clean out.

    Then this year daughter and partner and kids moved to Qld so we all moved in together. You guessed it another clean out.

    Unless something has a particular sentimental value (and there will be plenty) you sometimes have to get ruthless with what stays and what goes.

    Just remember, we are here for you if you need to bounce ideas like this and we are confident you will make all the right decisions, because these decisions affect nobody but you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ChookD2 View Post
    Moved house from Heathcote NSW to Bellmere Qld in early 2017. Cleaning the house out we had been in for 10yrs and thought we would be in for another 10 was a chore.
    Filled 2 x 4m3 bins with ****. I cleaned out my shed and I applied some rules.
    1. If I hadn't used it in the last year or 2 then I didn't need it.
    2. If I was unlikely to use it in the next year or 2 then I didn't need it.
    3. If I had forgotten I had it, I didn't need it.
    4. All the "I'll use that for something one day" stuff. You probably won't.

    Applied similar rules to the inside of the house as well. In particular clothing. Doesn't fit - gone. Don't wear it - gone.

    After 5 years in Bellmere there came a separation, unfortunate but things happen. Yet another clean out.

    Then this year daughter and partner and kids moved to Qld so we all moved in together. You guessed it another clean out.

    Unless something has a particular sentimental value (and there will be plenty) you sometimes have to get ruthless with what stays and what goes.

    Just remember, we are here for you if you need to bounce ideas like this and we are confident you will make all the right decisions, because these decisions affect nobody but you.
    Thanks, Ray. That is pretty much where I am. Luckily for me I have all the really sentimental stuff already boxed. I did this to keep the gannets out of it.

    As for the rest, there's a local hard rubbish collection next week... But, it's all the bloody tools! I suppose marketplace would help there. Have to keep some though.

    Destination is the next thing. That day in Woodford it was all clear. But that fell over recently... Sigh.
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    Hi,
    Would a local men's shed use the tools?
    Cheers

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    Quote Originally Posted by austastar View Post
    Hi,
    Would a local men's shed use the tools?
    Cheers
    Very likely. Thing is, while I like to think I'm the generous type, I am also a pensioner and could use the $$$. I will ponder.
    ​JayTee

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    Quote Originally Posted by austastar View Post
    Hi,
    Would a local men's shed use the tools?
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    Be careful as a lot of the time they keep them for a while and then sell them.

    I attend a local Woodwork Club that's affiliated with the Men's Sheds and they often get tools & machinery from deceased estates. They kick around for a while then they tend to get moved on. Often sold to provide funds for the Club.

    I'm a collector (hoarder ?) of tools. Since the Dandenong Trash & Treasure Market closed I haven't purchased anything and I'm getting withdrawal symptoms.

    I should be downsizing but I still have a lot of projects to finish, always interested in acquiring tools and happy to pay.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Tins View Post
    Don't apologise. When Jan was diagnosed I started a thread on here that went for a while and humbled me with the level of care demonstrated. Jan was a homebirth midwife, amongst other things. She also got pretty crook years ago, before the whole AIDS scare. Had a transfusion, and they didn't screen blood like they do now. Either that, or some blood transfer at a birth, gave her Hep C. No symptoms. But it slowly killed her liver. It is what it is. But I get tested. Because she didn't.

    Saw a bloke today when I was visiting the local OKA and LR doctor ( bloke must be mad ). This fella used to be on the Council, and had a pie shop, great pies. Haven't seen him for a bit. Looking a bit crook. He used to have a 110 double cab ute, with a couple of mutts. Asked him if he had sold it. No way he says, I was up the Kimberley last year. Strewth, I thought he'd struggle getting into the thing. Asked him how old, he says 82. On his own. He knew Jan. I told him I have an OKA. He said "Well ****ing get in it and go". Glad I bumped into him.

    66!!! I was four when you two tied the knot. Good innings mate. But you're not out yet.

    But some days it feels like 266. Don't ask.

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    170 here some days... unless I screw up and double dose on my Ritalin, like today... Ritalin writes cheques my body can't cash.
    ​JayTee

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