Thread: What do we do?

shootin is too good

What does your wife wont to do andy? Its a big call getting involved,if your wife and you wont to be involved you will have to be there for the long haul its not an easy position to be in.Its always wise to let the authorties do there job but 9/10 time they dont so no mater what happenes if you get into it you have to be prepeared to do anything you can.Its like walk away or comit.

Greg

1. Keep out of it as much as possible, except give all the support you can to the wife and children, as apropriate and in their time. Most likely best through your wife. Always be with your wife if they request you to visit even for the most basic thing. Never go alone to their house.
2. Yes - do not encourage communication with this fellow. Do not treat him as an enemy as such but as someone whom you do not want anything to do with. I see no problem in cutting any realtionship with him He has blown any kind of trust. (This may change with time if he becomes truly 'repentent' - but with a long time - and with evidence of true contrition and only if it causes no harm to wife and children. That may never occur again).
3. Keep in your mind that this type of person is liable to reoffend. If not his own children - maybe even nieces, nephews or grandchildren.
4. I hope the wife involved finds community or church or family support. She and her girls will need it.
3. Your wife must not become the conduit between him and his children. he has blown it.... if you have caller id on your phone use it and don't answer his calls.

What it comes down to is he is a pedophile and lost any right to be part of their life the moment he touched them in that way. you should not even be contemplating any contact with him.

I have to ask how the wife/mother found out.

Regrettably, some wives/mothers can't accept it happens in their family.

Originally Posted by skidmark77

What it comes down to is he is a pedophile and lost any right to be part of their life the moment he touched them in that way. you should not even be contemplating any contact with him.

As long as we are sure he has perpetrated all this mess. i.e Is convicted.

Having worked in a paediatric emergency department - it is awful when child abuse happens - there are occasions when, often during a divorce these allegations are fabricated and used against the estranged partner.

It is best not to get involved.

Diana

Take you "mate" camping with nothing but a rifle and a shovel

Take you "mate" camping with nothing but a rifle and a shovel

Something we can agree on . There are some major no-no's in life, doesn't matter what walk of life you are from. Assuming that the accusations can be substantiated ie innocent till proven guilty, that is something that the majority of people, especially parents, would want the worst to come that persons way. They may not admit it out loud, but they would want it. God forbid anybody did something like that to my angel's, retribution would be swift and brutal

Regards

Stevo