Thanks everyone i'm off for a shower then bed. . . . . .See if i can get some sleep.. & Fatty to i doubt we will get much sleep . . . .
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Thanks everyone i'm off for a shower then bed. . . . . .See if i can get some sleep.. & Fatty to i doubt we will get much sleep . . . .
Very sorry to hear about this tough time.
Its not much consolation I know but try to focus on the positives. Its too easy to only think about the negatives and infllate them and overlook the positives. I'm sure if you made a list the positives would outweigh the negatives.
Said news but as us Land Rover people know many a bad track has a good stretch hidden by a corner. Sometimes just enough space to allow you to stop in safety and peace, get your head together and continue with the journey and sometimes come out smiling. Hope this is your road Banjo.
Next time someone starts a thread about a squeak that is making their life miserable just direct them to this thread. It will certainly help them put the squeak into perspective.
Very well said Spud, we all hope it bounces back and ends up happily and united for Jason and Karen.
Hi Jason and Karen, I wish I had a magic wand to sort this out for you. I know all couples go through problems from time to time and those times can be short or really really long. One of the problems with separating is that it can be harder for both people. My wife and daughter have just been away for a week and I've been trying to do my normal jobs and all the stuff the missus usually does and I haven't had a minute to rest. Like DiscoMick says, have a look at the all the good things in your life and compare them to the bad things; hey, even ask the kids what they think are the good and bad things. You'll probably be surprised at how much is good. Good luck to both of you and the kids.
ps - Very bravely, you guys started this thread to talk about your problems and look how many pages you're up to, 323!!!! I haven't seen any other threads with so much input, advice, people sharing their own problems and caring and sharing. Both you, Jason and Karen have become the therapists on this thread. So many people have benefited from your honesty. Hey! I think you guys owe it to us to stay together; where else are we going to go for advice??????
50 - 60kmph winds here today too :oQuote:
Originally Posted by banjo
You should have an e-mail from me Jason and Karen, Johnf
Hey Banj, whats this 'Old Fart" business??:D You haven't been on the Forum today, how are things going??:confused: I have a really full day tomorrow, have to take 15 sailors to Sidunee!!!:)
sorry to hear the news..
Jason and Karen talk it through.....please
Well hi everyone its not much better still .We atleast aren't yelling at each other..I will give use all some history to this time in our relationship..
Karen & i have never been the type to do the kissy cuddle hold hands thing i like that but Karen has never & i don't mind as we where having sex regualy every 2 day which made up for all that so was good..Now i know how much Karen does for me & i know i can do much more for myself instead of just getting Karen to get it..Which is lazy of me..Well about 4 to 5 weeks ago this all changed big time down to once a week if lucky its also the time fred started to crap on again so we have been streesed from that.. Well we get to this point often as i never keep up with going out because Karen says yeah i'l lget it Now i cant get the things from to far but i can get to Cardiff easy but i always giveup..Well since the sex died i have resented Karen cause we now dont have any closness at all & she would say something & i would grunt & the Karen retalyates so & so forth between the 2 of us..Well i have put Karen through so much strees & **** over 23 years its not funny & this last biggy is my fault as i have just not tryed enough or kept going with it there for Karen has to take up all the slack which is to much. Now in the last 4 weeks Karen & i have spent maybe 40 mins together cause of the kids + ashley is always here when the kids are at school. so there is no our time at all. Well Karen has been getting some tattoos & last night we where talking & she said i have to tell you something & you are going to hate me ( i was very scared) but it had to be said she is having some feelings for her tattooist in the sense that she wants to be with him & they are strong for her . She said he makes her laugh & happy. He is a gentlman in all respects the same as me every thing is the same as me only he doesn't have a problem & could give her more.. She now feels like an idiot but i told her no she isn't & there is noway on this earth i could hate her ever because she has done so much for me.I have said maybe she should confront him about it but she wont as he is married with a sick child . . I realy do not know what to say to her ..I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS SCEARED IN MY INTIRE LIFE EVER i love Karen so much its not funny & now i have caused all this..I have no one to blame but myself for this & it is in noway for me to blame Karen at all...
I tryed to little to late i went out with her today to the tool shop to get a nutsert tool then went over to some shops in a busy area autobarn & the good guys all at warners bay ..I then went to pickup our pamphlets & was actualy talking to the boss guy for nearly an hour then decided to go for a drive ended up going to the top of lake road & down to glendale & back home ..Again to little to late..
I am very sceared so is Karen & i will fight tooth & nail to win her love & trust back..
We had some trouble some time back & nearly broakup then & it nearly killed the kids so we are worried about them aswell. & have just found out fred is having her bad dreams again & drempt that she found me hanging from a rope in the little shed..
Now i realy realy am scared to the point where my chest has gone very numb like a doosy panic attack is about to start regualy..
I have made things worse because i keep telling her i love her so much its not funny & she feels so bad because she has had these feelings for someone else . . . .
Also just ran Karen down the road to get tea bags & cough lollies.. Again to little to late....
I will be making more of an effort to go out & do as much as i posably can to win Karens love back & trust so i am asking use all to give me a hand & a kick up the ass to get moving when needed ..
PS AUS i will be calling at your house one day but i wont be stopping i need a couple of dry runs then i will stop say G'day & probably leave straight away , So could you explain to Mrs Aus what is happening so she dont think i am to sico or something for when it does happen..
I realy enjoyed myself today & loved to see Karen smile while up talking to her boss....
I pretty much stick to cardiff but i will get to glendale again as i used to do that quiet a bit & would stop there for quiet awhile to so i need to do this bigtime & keep it up..
I do know i will have bad days but i will just have to suck it up...