Embarrassment

Hi Banjo and Tribe , Haven't checked into the thread for a whilst but got up to speed yesterday. Wasn't the story I expected and mate I feel for you. Some great progress but not all beer and skittles.
There are hints that perhaps we know only half the story and I find myself wondering that whilst Aulro is a great help and outlet for you, perhaps there are deeper issues that need a greater type of help. I mean this this in the nicest possible way.

I gotta say a massive thank you for those that regulary read, and give their advice and encouragement on this thread. It is great to see and I am sure that it is mostly :D well received. But it is kind of nice to belong to a group that can offer assistance to those that need it.

I can offer no advice in this situation except Kids are good, and as Bblaze says dogs are good too, but I remember in a post recently that perhaps the dog isn't your best friend right now. What about a cat? I got a few spare here if you need one :D.

Hopefully, things will come around and there will be an awesome post from you next time I check in. Good luck mate.

Karen stayed awake a lot longer yesterday as we had to go back to the docs ..Slept well when we came back for a long time.she ate twice yesterday so i was happy to see that..I have to do the papers today fold them bag them & put the pamphlets in the bags them i will go throw them ...But Karen has a beauty shop appointment for today & she hasn't asked me to cancel it so i will take her down for that its at 1 i think...



Yeah the dog still wont come near me he is very timered to start with so you only have to rase your voice at him & you wont see him for a week.
VERY VERY timered he is he was like this when Karen brought him for me & i find it hard as i give the little bugger everything he was brought for me for company but i spend most of the time just trying to get the bugga to come to me...LOL

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Originally Posted by DiscoMick

Ah, the dreaded female hormonal problems resulting in depression - I know it well.
Just make sure she takes her medication, don't annoy her with pushy questions and get on with doing the best you can to be positive for your family.
And ignore your parents - why would you want to go back there, where your problems began? I don't think so.

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No choice realy can't afford to live on my own or, by myself ...More than likely i will put myself in the hospital its easier to do THATS ALL......

Well ok guys i need to dump my head so use are getting it...
Today went & got the papers & started to fold them.Got karen up at about 11.30 as she had an appointment at the beauty shop for her wax thingy..Got her all ready & went to bilo to get some stuff & money out..
Went to the shop for waxy when we left we crossed the road to get some keys cut for the girls while waiting for me to finish a smoke Karen was watching the tattoo shop so i said if you want to go down & see him go for it & say G'day its not just him there they are all Karens friends at the shop...HAVE I DONE THE WRONG THING.

Anyway we went got the keys cut & when we came out i was saying to Karen that she said to me that she never felt anything sexual towards the guy & he wants to be friends with you ..You said you just like his company & like to talk to him & be around him so i said whats wrong with that ,isn't that what you feel for friends ....

Anyway we came home & Karen just sat in the car anyway i said if you want to go & see him go & say g'day to all your friends at the shop & i said that the guy mite just be the person you can talk to as you don't want to tell me about your feeling as it makes you uncomfortable so he mite listen & chat with you as he wants friendship...& this is your time & your time with friends your space your time & i have no problem with you going down there to see him & your friends for a chat & catch up...

Anyway i came in to finish the folding & finaly Karen came in & said i'm going down to the second hand shops so i said call into the shop & say gday to your friends while your down there Plus she is happy there she mite come home a bit happier , no luck there...(mite be differant if he was single )

She told me about the conversation when she came home what they talked about & what not which is fine no problems from me...

She said to him am i a bad person for wanting to end it after 23 years & he said no your not BUT you are depressed & I have been there & its not good so don't do anything RASH he said .Use have lots of history together & the kids.

Since coming home Karen has said she has no feelings for me no love nothing its just numb about it.....

She booked in for her other tattoo in a couple of weeks She showed it to me when i was there with her the other day i'm not fust on it at all doesn't realy go with the 2 chineese girls she already has & she said well we will have to have a look see if we could find something we both like & that goes in there suits the spot..Today it was ah well you don't get a choice in it anymore...

The one she chose is a heart with an eyeball in it some crystals behind it & something under it cant remamber...




HAVE I DONE THE WRONG THING IN SAYING SHE SHOULD GO & TALK TO HIM AS HE WANTS TO BE HER FRIEND & THAT SHE SOULD CALL IN & SAY G'DAY TO ALL OF THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE HER FRIENDS...ISN'T THAT WHAT USE MENT BY HER TIME HER SPACE ON HER OWN..??????????????ATLEAST I KNOW SHE IS HAPPY THERE . .. . .

OH yeah got another phone call today from mother asking if everything is ok & normal today they are so **** scared of me ending up at there place & they will have the resposability of me..

This is a bit of the call she asked all that & i said no i still have to dress Karen for bed & get her a shower in the morning & get clothes for her..
she said is she that bad i said YES she said oh BUT shes ok to go down the road though YES i said its of a night she is so tired & has no energy what so ever so i dress her for bed & its the same in the mornings its called depression....

I had told her what i said to use in my last post ..


Parthetic this is my own mother.Don't worry, she says yesterday are you sure its just not so she can get rid of you & the resposability of you....

They are starting to **** big time they mite have to look after me ..
NEVER i will be puting myself into the disability part of the aged care at stockton before i go there.........

So now use know why i'm ****ed up so much its been like that all my life..

HAY where has everyone gone ,Must be something good on the telly ...

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Originally Posted by banjo

HAY where has everyone gone ,Must be something good on the telly ...

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Yeah mate, Top Gear, channel 9. :p

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Originally Posted by banjo

...HAVE I DONE THE WRONG THING.


HAVE I DONE THE WRONG THING ..??????????????

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No way. Karen may be unwell but she still needs to be treated as an adult and with respect. You've done that.

However I think Gillie is on the mark and the help that Karen needs is actually a bit more than the doctor is giving at the moment. When does she have the next appointment with him?

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Originally Posted by Stuuu

No way. Karen may be unwell but she still needs to be treated as an adult and with respect. You've done that.

However I think Gillie is on the mark and the help that Karen needs is actually a bit more than the doctor is giving at the moment. When does she have the next appointment with him?

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No idea he never said to make another one just if not better in a week or so double the dose of tablets....

You don't have to be TOO nice about encouraging her to see this bloke. You want her to stay with you.

BTW the guide I was reading said people who suffer panic attacks are usually very intelligent, so that's good.