Thread: Embarrassment

Hang in there mate , I hope you get that part of your life back and start going camping with your family again and spending more time with them.

Mate that took a lot to post that here, and I for one applaud your honesty and guts, well done

If there is anything I can do to help with parts etc, just PM, there's no danger of ME visiting, we're too far away, but I can still send stuff

Keep moving ahead, and your other half and kids are a tower of strength and inspiration, well done as a family

Take care,

JC

Man, that took a HEAP of courage, you must be feeling pretty low at the moment and felt the need to get things off your chest. Is'nt it strange how some people can breeze through life, with very few problems as in they have a happy childhood, get married to a wonderful partner ( you sound like you have achieved that, mate with a great wife!), have a great job/career, the kids grow up and have successsful careers.

Mate, trust me, I can associate a lot with what you have said, as in:
1) Cruel father, mine used to beat the crap out of mum.
2) Bankruptcy, been there done that and still trying to recover even though it was ten years ago.
3) First wife dying at the age of 27 from a massive asthma attack leaving me with two kids aged six and one. This was in 1974 so it was some time ago.
4) Diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2004, I have recently been given the all clear, but it was very draining going through chemo and radio therapy.
Mate, I guess what I am trying to say, some of us get dealt a lousy deal in life's game of cards and it seems as soon as you get over one problem another surface's.

I can't help you with parts for your Landy, having trouble with mine at the moment too, (aarrgghh) as I am not too mechanically inclined. But unlike other forum users I only live ten minutes away, so if you need somebody to talk too, I can help in that department.
I know Aldi and the cheap shops at Cardiff well.

You need to change the title of the thread to "Guts and Courage"...mate, only those that have really been in a position such as yourself can empathise with what you are going through. I am one of those, and still am suffering from the same things you do and more. Only problem is, I have no support from my ex- spouse - she walked out on the kids and I.

I can offer no advice....panic attacks are one of the most debilitating things that can happen to someone...just surround yourself with those that love you, communicate through forums such as this, trust your medical team and continue on your treatment plan - be it CBT, desensitization etc...good luck mate.

Jason,

I read your post and understand your situation; my heart goes out to you and Karen.

My wife has had agoraphobia for 25 years. While its severity changes over time, depending on what's happening in our lives, its always there. Right now we can travel reasonably easy around the suburb but anything beyond that is a major exercise involving mental preparation and planning, and Xanax.

Going somewhere and having to turn around, lying to people about the reasons for not going to parties and functions, making excuses, not being able to maintain friendships (Bit hard to invite people over if you can reciprocate right?), yep been there done that, still there now. The people thing is most difficult aspect I think; if you're a good liar like me, people eventual think you're either antisocial or just plain don't like them, so they stop contacting you, when in reality the opposite is true. Even good friends lose patience or interest after a while.

I could write more but that'll only depress you and me even more, so hang in there is all I can say.

Mark

Originally Posted by WhiteD3

Jason,

I read your post and understand your situation; my heart goes out to you and Karen.

My wife has had agoraphobia for 25 years. While its severity changes over time, depending on what's happening in our lives, its always there. Right now we can travel reasonably easy around the suburb but anything beyond that is a major exercise involving mental preparation and planning, and Xanax.

Going somewhere and having to turn around, lying to people about the reasons for not going to parties and functions, making excuses, not being able to maintain friendships (Bit hard to invite people over if you can reciprocate right?), yep been there done that, still there now. The people thing is most difficult aspect I think; if you're a good liar like me, people eventual think you're either antisocial or just plain don't like them, so they stop contacting you, when in reality the opposite is true. Even good friends lose patience or interest after a while.

I could write more but that'll only depress you and me even more, so hang in there is all I can say.

Mark

EXACTLY you learn to hide it .no cure just have to try & manage it & live with it my doctor put me on tofranil for it ,it helps to a degree.but its so hard on karen as it would be for yourself..

i sit here reading all these replies good wishes would just like to say a big thank you even though we still low at the moment it helps to know that there are people who understand and who offer good wishes karen

Originally Posted by banjo

i sit here reading all these replies good wishes would just like to say a big thank you even though we still low at the moment it helps to know that there are people who understand and who offer good wishes karen

Karen, Jason and family,

I understand a lot more now than I did before reading these posts about the impact this condition can have, and as a result wish you guys all the best and keep positive, a family together can overcome all sorts of challenges

Take care and best wishes,

JC