Thread: Embarrassment

I now understand how this has happend to Karen with the last 3 weeks of me doing stuff & i haven't even scratched the top compaired to what Karen does plus she has me to contend with on top of all the running around I haven't half of what Karen does & i been out every day & it feels like all day . . . . . ..


Me hips are getting a bit better now . . . . .

Originally Posted by banjo

OK guys i hope i get this right ..
Karen & i have been talking & i promis to not let her down a bad day is a bad day not a week or month or months . . . . & i am still keeping up with what i have done in the last 3 weeks. Karen says that its to much its not what she ment she just wants help if she forgets something while out i should say i will go get it or grab your bag i will run you down there & come with you things like that .but also doing stuff instaed of sitting on my ass .. . .

But i am enjoying it lots i even went to training tonight ... But i will slow down soon i have some things i want to do for myself but i will slow down for Karen . . . .

Karen says that we have been hear to many times over our 23 years so why would i trust you this time only to have you do it again , & maybe i don't want to put myself in that position again , I have nothing left to give she says & if it was to happen she doesn't think she would pull herself out of it & then who would look after the kids... All this because i have been jelous & posesive....Karen is so frightend of this happening again & i completly understand why. . . .

About me being posesive & jelouse this is ...I keep telling Karen i would like her to trust me because for the first time in 23 years I HAVE HELP not professional but just as good....& IT HAS BEEN EXPLAIND TO ME IN TURMS I CAN UNDERSTAND by use all.......Like use saying but if she talks to another bloke at the gym does she go home with him or come home to you . .. ..

I think i have done this to Karen because not delibratly or intensionaly because she is the only person on this earth to love me , Help me ,befriend me, surport me, & its always only been Karen till i spilt me guts on here....

So yes i promis to not let her down & i realy want her to have her days out on her own & i can do some stuff on those days to help out ,Like geting the pamphlets ,or picking up my smokes instead of messaging her to ask can you get these on the way home .. .WHAT AM I. DICKHEAD . .
& i recon if i dont do something use will all let me know . . .

Karen doesn't expect me to goto the real big shopping centers or bigish fuctions but to help out aroud here not home but around down the road & pamphlets in my limits where she wont have to do everything. . .

So do we Jason, in a very blokey way, that's why we're here.

Keep striving to improve and get better or completely well, how good would it be to get a job or go on a holiday, one day? It might be a fair way off but it's not beyond the realm of possibillity.

Jason keep striving forward..you are doing a fantstic job...you have friends here for you and Karen to talk to at anytime

Mrs hh

Jason a couple of times I have said to give Karen some 'space'.

You mentioned your OCD so maybe you need to give her 'double space' as her idea of 'space' and your idea of 'space' may not quite be the same at the moment.

Just a suggestion.

Originally Posted by Stuuu

Jason a couple of times I have said to give Karen some 'space'.

You mentioned your OCD so maybe you need to give her 'double space' as her idea of 'space' and your idea of 'space' may not quite be the same at the moment.

Just a suggestion.

I think you just hit the nail fair on the head . . .

your've com a long way in the past fortnight. Keep a clear head
cheers
blaze

Mate

You're going for a drive in a car

and ONE kid is on and on with "are we there yet?" "are we there yet?"

Drives ya nuts, doesn't it?

Karen is possibly feeling much the same. As others have said - space, mate.

She knows you love her. She knows everything you are doing. Let her have some time and space to sort it out.

She can't answer you right now - or in half an hour. She needs to work it all through. Women do that - in a nice way.

Don't stop being helpful - but not too helpful.

Now - another matter...

Back in the day when you had a job and all, did you ever hide a bit of cash away for a surprise present?

I bet it was well hidden, wasn't it?

In your special place.

Womens handbags, phones, bathroom cupboards... they are all their special places. We don't go there. It's not any of our business.

Everyone needs a 'bottom drawer' where they keep 'stuff'. A special place.

Don't break the sanctity of such a place by peeking - even if you thought you were helping. It's her place.

Cheers mate. Keep extending your boundaries - but not too far too fast. Pace yourself and let your family keep up with you.

TOP OF THE MORNING TO YOU BANJO, ANOTHER WONDERFUL DAY ON THIS EARTH IS STARTING!!!!so lets all enjoy it as you won't get a second go. I'll be chopping some wood this morning that is my achievement for the day, what are you going to achieve today Banjo???? Also I agree with what has been said about "personal space", your wallet and your phone is your personal space and a ladies personal space is her handbag and her phone, it is sacrosanct!!!
Anyrate Banjo greet this day with a smile and think positive!!!