Thread: Embarrassment

Originally Posted by Didge

Hi Banj, oh I mean Jason. Mate, I haven't been able to keep up with all the posts on your thread. Been working a lot lately and this thread has to be probably the most active on the site, so its easy to miss a heaps of pages if you don't visit for a few days. Shows you how much everyone cares about the pair of you and your kids. Funny though, you've both been talking about walking out for quite a while and nothing like that has happened which firstly is good, especially for the kids and secondly it makes me think that you deep down you both feel you are good for each other. It seems to me you're both going through a bit of self help therapy, which can be a painful experience and you're both looking at all the good and bad things that have happened over the years and what you've done that is good and bad. Do you know how many couples just put up with each other and live a life of misery without saying what's really ****ing them off cos they know if they start telling the truth its going to get really ugly? I don't either, but I bet my life its heaps of couples. At least you too have been brave enough and I mean really, really brave to put it out there for the world to see and try to help. That shows you do really care about each other and your family. Although from what I've read there has been a lot of good, common sense advice dispensed here, my fear is that none of us commenting and giving advice from our own houses are psychologists ( I stand to be corrected) who are adequately trained to give you the best advice and it may well be best for you to visit a counsellor who can deal with your needs better than we can. Usually the local doctor can give you a referral to a local psychologist/ marriage counsellor for help. I'm not in any way trying to suggest this discussion doesn't help cos I think it's brilliant, not only for you guys but also for everyone who has even bothered to comment here (you have helped a lot of us look inward towards our own problems as we sought to help you), it's just that from what I've read it seems to me you've stopped sinking and now you're treading water. What we want to see is you guys start swimming toward a better future. Sometimes we need to put the bad times behind us and look at our partners as we see them today. Do we like what we see? Yes? great get on with life and enjoy it. People change and it seems to me both of you are putting in more effort for each other; you're not behaving as you were before and it seems to be moving in a positive direction.
By the way, for anyone who has commented or offered advice here, my words above are meant with the greatest respect to all of you and in no way do I mean offend you.
cheers Gerald (formerly pirasea)
Yeah I know, after all that I'm not a psychologist either bloody hypocrit!

A nd it may be a good thing that you are not a psychologist. Colin, a man I know, but have not seen for years studied Psychology at Sydney University, getting his PhD in Psychology. Colin said that he had o forget everything that he learned at University to be come effective in helping and councilling people--He became a Minister of Religion.

Hey aus where have you been hiding of late .You have been to quiet for a while now what up.??????