Thread: Embarrassment

Originally Posted by banjo

Have you got a big weekend with work Aus . . . .

YUP!!!!

A big weekend of kiddies ?

Good onya Jason, we're all backing you mate.

G'day Jason and fellow embaressments. Just thought I'd drop a quick hello. Lifes been pretty busy down here in Mexico , doing 50 hour+ weeks, not much time for aulro after all that! hope you have all been well. Read back a few pages - sounds like you should write a book jas! Hang in there mate

Hi Paul, you have been missed....................that's not neccessarally in a good way.

Well i think i have now created another problem now. Karen's not realy talking to me a great deal & to top it off she is depressed & not handling me doing everything ..But i don't think i'm doing everything she still has to do alot.I'm just doing some running her around & done the deliveries once on my own & i have picked up the papers & pamphlets a couple of times on my own but Karen has been doing stuff thats why i picked them up so she didn't still have to do it on top of what she was already doing. But what i have done seems to be to much, now i'm worried that if i stop a bit i mite slip & Karen has told me she expects me to slip a little & she says she doesn't expect miricals just a bit of help ....Plus Karen's not eating & when she does if she eats to much which isn't much she can't keep it down so i am very worried about her ..We have a doctors appointment on monday which i don't think she wants me to go with her , I'll wait in the car if she likes....

I am starting to think she wants out & i not to sure what to do..She tells me differant but its hard . .

But i am very concerned about Karens health in all this....

Come on Jason, get your act together. Stop worrying about what might happen. We all know, Karen included, the effort you have put in and the successes you have had. Ask Karen what she wants, and discuss things with her, come to joint decisions and keep the fantastic effort going. You and Karen are a team, and all good teams work to each others strengths and weaknesses, and consult. There is no 'I' in team. Mate, you've probabley overwhelmed the poor girl, talk thing over with her. We're still supporting you both.

Mate in many ways you have really turned things around big time - and for Karen that may take a bit of getting used to.

Remember its not only for youself that you need to take things slowly its for her too. She's had to do a fair bit for a long time and now things have changed and sort of changed pretty quickly.

Any sort of change can make us feel uncertain and unsure of the here and now (and also the future) because what is happening today is different to what happened yesterday. I'm sure Karen is no different because you have had an amazing week.

We all know you love Karen from all the things you said about her. I once heard a definition of love as being "An intelligent willingness to what is right for the other person".

Jason you are intelligent so as Ian said talk, it through together and walk it through together - at the same pace as each other. One day or week you'll be in front and need to slow down for her and the next she'll probably need to slow down for her but because it is love, then you'll do it - together.

Keep up the good work.